Messengers are rarely anyone's favorite person. Be that as it may, fantasies all eventually end up like Iraq after the inevitable reality sets in. Much better to grieve the fantasy and let it go, which means first understanding that there is one and then why there is one. Tragically for the world, that rarely happens. Eric Yost <eyost1132@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote: Andyrene: A question is how the fantasy of arrogant gun toting cowboy may have served you and what the loss of that illusion means. It's like somebody dislikes you as Andy and then they learn you are Irene and they dislike you as Irene. You are used to being disliked as Andy, but then you have to get used to being disliked as Irene too. Same with the cowboy thing. Being hated as the gun-toting cowboy of the world is one thing, but being the timid, bureaucratic, and self-serving "movie background" American is quite another. ------------------------------------------------------------------ To change your Lit-Ideas settings (subscribe/unsub, vacation on/off, digest on/off), visit www.andreas.com/faq-lit-ideas.html --------------------------------- New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and save big.