Hi all,
On Sun, Mar 22, 2009 at 12:34:52PM -0400, Alyssa wrote:
I agree with you Laura Ann. I, too, asked a question and received a
rather
rude and demeaning response. I did not appreciate that at all, and it did
make me reconsider whether being on this list is a good idea or not.
Alyssa, it is unfortunate that you had such an experience. However, the
person who responded may have had a bad day, may have thought you knew
more than you did at the time, may have tried to answer you in haste and
bungled the job. The thing to remember in any online community is that
people are people wherever you find them, some are nice, some are not
nice, some are grumpy and some, a few, are evil.
Two, email is one of the very worst vehicles of communication at times
because you cannot tell what a person really means. the smile in the
voice doesn't come across. The leaning forward to indicate listening
can't be felt. The tone of helpfulness or sarcasm or anything else may
not come across in the person's writing. If you think you were insulted,
read the message a couple of times, then, ask for clarification. <smiling
with twinkle> That, of course, is easier said than done.
Also, the reaction of one person should never deter you from doing
something or being something, or attaining something you really want. If
you are determined to accomplish something, and especially if you are
doing it for somebody else, tell the whole world to go fly a kite if you
have to do so. You know you're supposed to do whatever it is, so, you do
it, and to blazes with anyone who is rude or hasty.
Now of course, what you could do is ask the churl you encountered to
clarify and to give you the info you asked for, but since this list and
many others are full of helpful people, I'd just wait for the next person
to come along. Why aggravate yourself? Leaven your days with humor and
confidence, and you can't go wrong.
Hmmm, BTW, if it was I who was grumbly, I am sometimes, accept my apology.
Ann P.
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