Thank you, Christine,
I did not understand the words, I just saw the body language, the tone of
the voice and the action.
There is something I have to say, "
*TO VIOLATE THE HIERARCHY IS LEADING TO DEATH". Yes, this is the case,
especially in totalitarian regime. Many people sacrificed their lives
challenging hierarchy. Do we call them heroes? Hierarchy has to be
challenged when it goes wrong. Otherwise we would be like a herd of sheep
blindly following the main ram. This leads to death and destruction, and
even genocide. *
*I am not saying that against Bert or or to undermine his past greatness. I
honor him and his attribution to humanity. It just seems that his Soul is
not connected with his body and mind anymore. He is an old man now and a
human, like we all. We will all get old and we may lose this connection.
What is surprising that anybody still stayed inside the room... Somehow, we
do behave like a herd of sheep...*
*With Love*
*Joanna*
On Wed, Apr 19, 2017 at 6:51 PM, Christine Ruettimann
christine.sarena@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear ones
Watching this is also rather dirturbing to me. What comes to my mind is
that human conduct is ever unreliable. The way the "constellation" was
facilitated was full of ego and without any respect and sensitivity from
both Sophie and Bert.
for those who don't understand German or Russian I give the German
translation:
*Sophie forces the young woman to say to her mother: "You are here the big
one". The daughter says to Sophie that she cannot say it, because she has
so many problems. Still Sophie tries to force her. After the daughter
becomes more irritated Sophie tries the same procedure with the mother. She
orders her to say to the daughter: "You are here the little one". She can't
say it either. Sophie says "You HAVE TO honour the hierarchy", then being
frustrated walkes away. Bert says "This was a good demonstration what it
means to violate the hierarchy (ranking system)." Then someone of the group
says something and Bert asks three times. "Who was talking here?". When he
sees the woman he says "Get out of the door!" Then he says to all: "We
don't tolerate it if someone arrogates to intervene here!"*
*Sitting down he says two times: "Now I made clear WHO is the big one
here!" Sophie says: "It's about life and death. TO VIOLATE THE HIERARCHY
IS LEADING TO DEATH". ....... (resulting in dead silence)*
We all make mistakes. But in my opinion the *attitude* that was
demonstrated here is very harmful to the wonderful gift of constellation
work.
Christine Rüttimann
Switzerland
"Joanna Malinowska joanna@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]" <
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> schrieb am 4:24 Mittwoch, 19.April
2017:
Dear Giselle,
Yes, I could not believe my eyes. The girl was hit with a microphone, and
quite hard. Yet what was happening before was also forced. It was visible
that mother and daughter were connected before Sophie was trying to force
some words on the daughter. The mother smiled, the daughter was chatting
with her. Then they became more and more rigid and disconnected. If there
was trauma there, then more trauma has been added. It was also brake of
trust, I wonder if this girl will be open to any therapy in the future.
This was not what Family Constellations is about as it was not love (and
no compassion), even no respect, and definitely nothing from the Knowing
Field. It was just acting from the power and superiority.
When it comes to the TRUTH, nobody holds it. The person can be hold by the
TRUTH when he or she is open to it. Then the TRUTH speaks through him /
her. We can call TRUTH different names, God, or Spirit or just
Unconditional Love, or Universe. Unfortunately, the individuals who are
touch by TRUTH quite offer become grandiose and take it for their personal
greatness. And this is how they loose connection with TRUTH. Or there are
some other reasons, sickness or old age, and they forget. The TRUTH stays
and evolves, and we can be always grateful to them for showing us the way,
even if they do not lead anymore.
Thank you fo sharing.
With LOve
Joanna
On Wed, Apr 19, 2017 at 12:19 AM, 'Heather Embree'
heather@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@
yahoogroups.com> wrote:
Thanks for sharing this, Giselle. That is disturbing for me personally. I
have seen facilitators use physical contact with clients and it’s an act of
trying to put one in place of respecting the order with a notion of
punishment. For me, that scene is publically humiliating and shuts down the
younger person from her truth and feelings. There are real cases of
parental abuse that may not be addressed (I am only going by body language
here as I don’t understand German or Russian), and it an go to further
silence someone from the truth of the issues.
It’s not my style and rather for me the movement with any discord is
helping each person see the other’s humanity, personal violence and learn
how to self-care or self-protect in the face of it.
Thank you for sharing.
Heather
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To: ConstellationTalk@yahoogroups. com <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Orders of love and trauma
Dear ones,
I have been wanting to connect with you about this for some months…
Someone sent me a video from Bert which I find quite disturbing. Since
then, I have mixed feelings... I would really appreciate you let me know
your feelings/thoughts about it.
We know the truth he - and Sophie - are holding and yet, in my heart, and
as a trauma therapist, I can’t accept this violence, which also seems
unnecessary. There is some kind of fundamentalism about the orders of love
that seems to be very disconnected. I really wonder about the effects this
has… I could say more, but I would really love if you could let me know
what your thoughts are… The video is in German and Russian… but if you
can’t understand the words, at least you can see the faces and the moment
Sophie hits a participant with the microphone, and, afterwards Bert sends
out someone who complains about this...
https://www.youtube.com/watch? v=hjp7Frr3QjQ
<https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hjp7Frr3QjQ>
With love and gratitude,
Giselle
<http://www.interbeing.space>
www.interbeing.space
Giselle Charbonnier
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