Hello all,
I have been reading this thread carefully, as I am very aware of my own
relationship to ethics in the work and curious about others' stance.
"I once heard....that each person gets the facilitator they need and
facilitators get the constellations they deserve.
Is this statement just an easy way of not taking responsibility?"
This for me is a very prevalent question. I was taught and work in a way
that tends to trust the Field unconditionally. That being said, I think it
is important that we (and when I say we I mean me and people relatively new
to this work) take a long hard look at our own ethics, our own issues with
power and desires to assert our view on the client. The Field might be
always right, but I think in no way does that dispense us from working with
the utmost care and respect for the client's soul, especially around
trauma, and in no way does it excuse abuse of power, at least in my view.
My sense is that if you're having to manhandle the client into your idea of
the "right" thing, you're entirely missing the point of "acknowledging what
is".
While I have gained great insight from Bert Hellinger's books and respect
him as the pioneer of this work in occident, I cannot be ok with those
videos, both from a personal and professional standpoint. Constellations
are an incredibly powerful tool, and I feel we have a responsibility to use
it with awareness. Let's not forget that in many cultures around the world,
the mechanics of constellation (or working in the Field) is or has been
used to do harm to others. Like any tool, constellations can cause harm if
wielded as a mean to assert power. As a facilitator, it is my priority to
keep that in mind and be as mindful as possible in how I use this tool.
Those are my two cents. Thank you for this discussion that raises such
important questions rarely acknowleged.
Blessings to all,
Laure
On Apr 19, 2017 21:24, "Rosalba Stocco rstocco@xxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk]" <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
"So for me one of the questions that comes out of this excellent discussion
involves the interface of instinctual response, ego narrative protection
and soul movement. "
Thank you Jan,
That is an excellent point of discussion which takes it away from Bert and
Sophie,
Even if they were part of the constellation as Gertrude suggested.
I do believe that none of us should blindly follow, and I believe
questioning and dialogue create larger spaces.
There is a point where a facilitator over steps....and the questions that
then arise is when and where and how?
And is there a magic formula for catching this?
And do we need this magic formula?
I once heard....that each person gets the facilitator they need and
facilitators get the constellations they deserve.
Is this statement just an easy way of not taking responsibility?
*Rosalba*
* “World peace will never be stable until enough of us find inner peace to
stabilize it”*
~ Peace Pilgrim
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On Apr 19, 2017, at 12:56 PM, Janice Crawford jcrawford4000@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
So for me one of the questions that comes out of this excellent discussion
involves the interface of instinctual response, ego narrative protection
and soul movement. Jan Crawford
