[lit-ideas] Re: The Feminine Technique?
- From: Paul Stone <pas@xxxxxxxx>
- To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Wed, 16 Mar 2005 15:16:50 -0500
>(mirabile dictu)
That's almost as innuendish as "feminine technique"
>is the social psyhcologist who said it.
>
> >>She's the only one of them who (almost) makes me think such substantial
> >>differences
> >>exist (socialization apart). But I think it wise to draw a distinction
> between
>
>PS> Does anything ELSE make you think that? I mean other than Tannen's
>writing?
>PS> Like maybe LIFE?
>
>Didn't you see "(socialization apart)"?
I don't read everything... I'm a man [i.e. foolish and hastening].
> >>A. there's a male style and a female style
>
>PS> I think this should be re-written: A. there are feminine and masculine
>PS> styles, each of which can be used by either sex.
>
>I tend to agree but that isn't Tannen's contention. Of course that's a
>problem with her writing (and almost all such writing).
Ah...
> >>B. there's a normally unquestioned notion that there's one way to do
> >>science, the adversarial way
>
>PS> Or maybe: the right way for the circumstances.
>
>you think?
Never!
>PS> MEN definitely play less competitively against women too;
>
>that didn't show up in these studies but then they are studies of game
>theory games.
>
>
>PS> but I acknowledge
>PS> that we are actually TAUGHT to. What's the point? Women more [naturally]
>PS> 'sporting' than men?
>
>That women conceal their competitiveness in the presence of men. (If
>women were "naturally sporting" or even "fully socialized to be
>sporting" then their behaviour wouldn't change according to whether
>they were playing women or men.)
Well... I can only speak from experience... If I am playing a man who is my
equal or better, I try my hardest... If I am playing a man who is far less
skilled, almost any woman or a child, I let up. Otherwise, it's just no fun!
> >>I must though end by saying that I am torn on this kind of difference
> >>issue. I think there is something in the difference argument. I find
> >>it difficult to write about, sometimes, because I am as it were not of
> >>one mind here.
>
>PS> Who the heck is? It's a continuum.
>
>Many are of one mind in that they believe there are such differences,
>somewhat fewer are of one mind in that they believe there are none, it
>is a point (and an issue) on which I am torn.
Ah.. so you are one of those that Marlena was speaking of: A or B? nothing
else? Dichotomize, Dichotomize, Dichotomize -- the word's lost all meaning.
frolicking on a humpday,
paul
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Paul Stone
pas@xxxxxxxx
Kingsville, ON, Canada
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