[bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: people's reactions and stpid questions
- From: "Julie & Miss Mercy" <mercy421@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Sun, 3 Dec 2006 16:04:23 -0500
Hi, Sue. I agree with your points here. I've had my share of questions that
left me dumbfounded at how crazy they sound, but sometimes, people truly
don't know. They don't think about how crazy it sounds to us because it
doesn't sound crazy to them...they really don't know...and sometimes, just
answering the question politely gets you a lot further than shrugging the
person off or being rude about it. I'm not suggesting we answer someone's
questions if they're asking personal questions they have no right to answer,
but sometimes, people are just curious. I'm no saint, either, though, and I
get frustrated just like everyone else. Sometimes, it seems like our lives
are made up of educating people and the ignorance we face sometimes does get
overwhelming, so I can't say I'm always polite because I'm not,
unfortunately. Sometimes, we just don't have the time to go into an all-out
discussion and we shouldn't always have to, but sometimes, if we do have the
time, it does pay to just answer their questions and educate them. Take
care.
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----- Original Message -----
From: "siss52" <siss52@xxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Saturday, December 02, 2006 4:15 PM
Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: people's reactions and stpid questions
Good point, Cindy. Sometimes we can be too sensitive about questions. I
always ask what a baby's name is when I meet oone, and asking if you can pet
a dog is an intelligent question. It is the "dummy" questions that get to
me. One time I went to a job interview, and the man interviewing me asked,
"How do you coomb your hair?" I wanted to say, "I use a comb and brush,"
but of course I wanted a job so instead I explained that I could tell by
touch when my hair looked okay. I smiled when I said that, and got the job.
Sue S.
----- Original Message -----
From: "Grandma Cindy" <popularplace@xxxxxxxxx>
To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Saturday, December 02, 2006 2:33 PM
Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: people's reactions and stpid questions
Those are questions anyone with a dog might be asked,
Shelley, at least what is your dog's name, what breed
is it, and, can I pet him/her--especially children.
Whebn my adult children join us at an outside table
where we have a sandwich, with their baby and their
dog, people--adults-- stop and ask about one or the
other, depending on whether they're "dog" people or
"baby" people--rarely both, now that I come to think
of it. Children, and even adults, will ask if it's
o.k. to pet the dog.
Cindy
--- "Shelley L. Rhodes" <juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
> I always wanted to but haven't done it yet.
>
> When I get on the buses in Kalamazoo, I would always
> get.
>
> What is your dog's name? How long have you had him?
> Is he trained? What
> breed is it?
>
> These are usually questions posed by bratty
> ttenagers not people who
> sincerely want to know.
>
> I want to turn around and says.
>
> And How old are you? What breed are you? Have you
> been trained? (as it
> doesn't appear to be so to me),
>
> Smile, but haven't done it, don't have the guts too.
>
> Shelley L. Rhodes B.S. Ed, CTVI
> and Judson, guiding golden
> juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx
> Guide Dogs For the Blind Inc.
> Graduate Alumni Association Board
> www.guidedogs.com
>
> Dog ownership is like a rainbow.
> Puppies are the joy at one end.
> Old dogs are the treasure at the other.
> Carolyn Alexander
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Grandma Cindy" <popularplace@xxxxxxxxx>
> To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> Sent: Saturday, December 02, 2006 2:45 AM
> Subject: [bksvol-discuss] OT: people's reactions and
> stpid questions
>
>
> I suspect the same insensitive people ask similar
> question of people with other disabilities, too. I
> think I would be tempted to reply by asking them the
> same question, e.g., re the living alone--"Do you?"
> As
> to your first example--it's hardd tp imagine people
> being that crass.
>
> The situation that has always puzzled me is whether
> or
> not to help people in wheelchairs by opening doors
> for
> them. I want to be helpful but I don't want them to
> feel that I think they can't be independent. I
> usually
> wait to see whether it appears that they need help,
> i.e., if they have to turn the sheelchair to back
> out,
> or have to reach forward, I open the door--or is
> someone else is pushing the chair. I try to let
> people
> be as independent as possible, but I don't want them
> to think I'm being uncaring, either--nor do I want
> people to think I pity them, because I don't. I
> admire
> people who don't let any kind of disability get in
> their way of living life. I'm not so sure I could do
> as well.
>
> Cindy
>
>
> --- Elizabeth and Burton <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> wrote:
>
> > Actually that bothers me too. I am also bothered
> by
> > strangers walking up
> > to me and saying "I have never watched a blind
> > person ((fill in the blank
> > such as eat a salad or do some task.) I am happy
> to
> > talk about myself but
> > this is different than having no boundaries where
> my
> > being blind means I am
> > on display for the interest of others or need to
> > interrupt what I am doing
> > to discuss my life with you.
> >
> > I am also amazed at the fact that total strangers
> > have come up to me and
> > asked me things about my personal life. It would
> > never occur to me to walk
> > up to someone and say "Do you live alone?" "Do you
> > have children?" and
> > such. I mean if I am having a conversation with
> you
> > you might ask me that
> > if you knew me a bit but total strangers somehow
> > figure they have the right
> > to ask personal things because we are visibly
> > disabled.
> >
> > E.
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