[bksvol-discuss] OT: people's reactions and stpid questions
- From: Grandma Cindy <popularplace@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Fri, 1 Dec 2006 23:45:11 -0800 (PST)
I suspect the same insensitive people ask similar
question of people with other disabilities, too. I
think I would be tempted to reply by asking them the
same question, e.g., re the living alone--"Do you?" As
to your first example--it's hardd tp imagine people
being that crass.
The situation that has always puzzled me is whether or
not to help people in wheelchairs by opening doors for
them. I want to be helpful but I don't want them to
feel that I think they can't be independent. I usually
wait to see whether it appears that they need help,
i.e., if they have to turn the sheelchair to back out,
or have to reach forward, I open the door--or is
someone else is pushing the chair. I try to let people
be as independent as possible, but I don't want them
to think I'm being uncaring, either--nor do I want
people to think I pity them, because I don't. I admire
people who don't let any kind of disability get in
their way of living life. I'm not so sure I could do
as well.
Cindy
--- Elizabeth and Burton <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
> Actually that bothers me too. I am also bothered by
> strangers walking up
> to me and saying "I have never watched a blind
> person ((fill in the blank
> such as eat a salad or do some task.) I am happy to
> talk about myself but
> this is different than having no boundaries where my
> being blind means I am
> on display for the interest of others or need to
> interrupt what I am doing
> to discuss my life with you.
>
> I am also amazed at the fact that total strangers
> have come up to me and
> asked me things about my personal life. It would
> never occur to me to walk
> up to someone and say "Do you live alone?" "Do you
> have children?" and
> such. I mean if I am having a conversation with you
> you might ask me that
> if you knew me a bit but total strangers somehow
> figure they have the right
> to ask personal things because we are visibly
> disabled.
>
> E.
>
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