I see this a bit differently. In my experience, the norm is exclusion, in both
personal and professional situations. People tend to look for a few common
denominators, group together on that basis and then begin the list of those who
are excluded and why. Inclusion then becomes a sort of prison of rigid
requirements and a tightrope of allowable responses.
In my own experience, I have been the subject of exclusion within my nuclear
family, in intimate and social relationships, and in my professional circle.
Not only, "I/we don't want to play with you anymore" but specific and hurtful
diatribes on my deficiencies as a human being. After the immediacy of the
resulting feelings subsides, I notice again the repetition of this pattern in
my life, which occurs in good times and in bad. I figure I'm probably no worse
and no better than the next guy, and then begin to wonder, where in the history
of my family, does this pattern initiate, where and how is it repeated, and how
does it intersect with the history of the culture and ultimately the world it
comes from. And being a realist, though my experience feels unique, I imagine
that others could corroborate this pattern or something like it.
So, yes, inclusion is politically correct, but no, I have not found inclusion
to be so widely exhibited as to be the norm. In my experience and opinion, mind
you.
Always interesting to see what topic awaits the new day!
all the best, sheila
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On Jan 23, 2014, at 2:01, "Steve Vinay Gunther" <spirited@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I am writing about a topic that’s a little difficult.
In the constellation ethos, exclusion is understood, generally, to be a
source of entanglements.
One of the things I have really valued about the constellation community
itself is the degree of inclusiveness that is widely exhibited. So many
different facilitators, with their different styles, yet there seems to be a
general ability to get along. This open, field-oriented inclusiveness is
something I find a bit special, and sets the constellation community apart in
my experience.
However, recently I was dismayed to find an unmistakable example of exclusion
on the peer level in one area of the constellation community. This experience
was rapidly and clearly confirmed, and the gate to dialogue was shut down
completely.
Now, in the realm of human experience, people engage in all sorts of
behaviours, for their own reasons, and obviously influenced by their own
field. But I thought to raise it, as perhaps its a difficult thing to discuss
exclusionary behaviour within our own community, by people who hold certain
positions, in roles of some power and influence.
I certainly felt impacted by it, and somewhat powerless in the face being
excluded without any possibility of discussion.
I am interested in other’s reflections on this issue. I guess that given the
high valance given to the topic, somewhere it will form a disowned shadow.
Vinay
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In the infinite ocean
of samsara.
rest in natural great peace.
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