[audio-pals] Re: Facebook Trend
- From: Daniel Crone <averagegrabbag@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: audio-pals@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Tue, 17 Mar 2015 09:30:02 -0500
Josh, glad your son is doing okay.
Thanks for the update.
On Mar 17, 2015, at 8:55 AM, Josh <lawdog911@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> Well, as most of you all know my son is biologically my nephew on my wife’s
> side. Without going into a big long drawn out story his Mom cared more about
> herself than she did him or his sister. So, needless to say this lack of care
> lead to the state getting involved. My wife’s sister tried to keep us from
> getting him, but we kept fighting and going around her to get information
> best we could. Finally, the state quit looking at the worthless father and
> let us in on more of what was going on. One thing lead to another and we now
> have permanent custody of our son. Once we got pc the shift took place. He
> started calling us Dad and Mom which he could do even when we just had
> temporary custody, but we did not force him at anytime to call us Dad and
> Mom. When we had temporary custody he would sneak around and call us Dad and
> Mom to his friends and stuff, but it was not till we got permanent custody
> that he started calling us Dad and Mom to our faces. We have done our best to
> explain to him the differences between Mother and Mom and Father and Dad and
> that a Mother and Father can be a Mom and a Dad, but a Dad and Mom does not
> always have to be a Father and Mother. Well, anyways this is some background.
> We have faced some obstacles along the way mostly on Amanda’s side, but now
> there is one starting to form on my side with my parents.
> Our son calls my Dad and Mom Pops and Gram and they see him as their
> grandson. So, here is where the problem arises. Amanda posts things regarding
> his progress all the time. The most recent thing that she has posted is his
> progress report which shows him reading on an 8th grade level. He is in the
> third grade as some of you all may remember me mentioning in my introduction.
> My Mom was the first one to post and commented about that is our boy or
> something to that effect. However, I then seen where biological family
> members posted and my Mom’s comment has been removed. I know why my Mom
> removed it because she has mentioned in the past not wanting to cause waves,
> but I do not think this is right especially given all they do for him. She
> has asked me about pictures she has posted with them in the picture with
> Little Man. In my personal opinion if they have a problem then it is not with
> the fact that my parents are doing things with him, it is an internal problem
> that they need to work out with themselves. Ok, I am through getting this off
> my chest now. I do not know if I posted or not, but in January we closed our
> home for foster kids. Once we get a house that is bigger and they can have a
> different room than Little Man’s we will consider reopening. When we started
> the process to get Little Man we also went thorugh the process as one of the
> requirements to become foster parents. We had to take the training, but did
> not necessarily have to get the home study done, but we figured if we are
> going this far with it then we should go ahead and go the whole way in case
> we wanted to take in foster kids. We knew that in our current living
> situation taking in foster kids was not a possibility mainly because Little
> Man did not want to share his room and we were not going to make him.
> So, I have emailed Amanda and suggested that she talk to my Mom because
> this is not a situation that they should feel awkward in. If anything the one
> that created the shift is the one that should feel awkward for creating the
> situation that has caused the shift. Little Man calls me Dad and my parents
> are my parents so therefore that does make them a set of his grandparents. He
> calls them Pops and Gram and again if he sees them as his grandparent then
> that is all that matters and who cares what people think of it. Okay, well I
> have to go and ponder this a while and see if I can come up with some sort of
> solution. One of the grandmothers that posted a comment coddles the
> biological mother so this may be some of the problem.
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