[bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
- From: "Robert Riddle" <captinlogic@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 5 Dec 2006 05:13:48 -0800
Oh, I do that. I was in a restaurant once, and the waitress hollered at me "
what would you like, sir!" and I hollered right back "To take you to bed,
ma'am!" as loud as I could. She never hollered at me again, nor did any
other servers at that particular restaurant. <smirk.>
----- Original Message -----
From: "Dan Beaver" <dbeaver888@xxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Tuesday, December 05, 2006 4:10 AM
Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
> Hmmm, maybe this one should go under this subject. Although, maybe it
> should be under people who do not think.
>
> Back in the 80s I went on a business trip. I took a flight to New York
> state.
>
> When I got to my seat I found that I had 2 other travelers sitting in the
> same row with me. That was fine since I enjoy talking with people and
> meeting new people. We hit it off pretty well too. After a very few
> questions about my Guide Dog and how we travel things moved to much more
> normal topics.
>
> After a while the flight attendants began the process of distributing
drinks
> and nuts or something of that sort. Of course I could hear them slowly
> moving their way along the isle. I wasn't planning on partaking and was
> planning to politely let them know that when they asked.
>
> When the flight atendant got to our row she placed 1 hand on the back of
my
> seat and 1 on the back of the seat in front of me. It didn't bother me
but
> I had to wonder what that would be like for a sighted guy. She asked the
2
> people between me and the window waht they would like.
>
> Once she had gotten their refreshments she stepped back. She leaned down
> very close to my face and literally yelled, "would you like anything to
> eat?".
>
> I just quietly said no thanks.
>
> After she moved on down the isle the 2 folks next to me expressed
amazement
> and near anger that she would do such a thing. One of them started
> snickering and said, "you are just blind not deaf too right?".
>
> I have to admit at this point that I seriously considered screaming back,
> "no thanks.". But I didn't.
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Lora" <loravara@xxxxxxxxxxx>
> To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> Sent: Tuesday, December 05, 2006 12:37 AM
> Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
>
>
> > What you say is true. Regrettably, we live in a dangerous world. If
I'd
> > been more uneasy, I might have shoved him away, which could be dangerous
> > for
> > him in the middle of an intersection.
> >
> > I also think you're right about more physical contact. A new
> > acquaintance,
> > when offering to guide me in a restaurant (a courtesy I will accept,
> > because
> > the restaurants I tend to go to seem to have lots of cramped spaces and
> > such), slipped my hand in his to guide. I pulled my hand back and took
> > his
> > arm. I wouldn't have minded flirting with him, but he's married, and so
> > even holding hands seems off limits to me. Maybe that's an entirely
> > different subject, though.
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: bksvol-discuss-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
> > [mailto:bksvol-discuss-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Elizabeth and
> > Burton
> > Sent: Monday, December 04, 2006 10:23 PM
> > To: bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
> > Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
> >
> > Reality is grabbing someone, particularly a woman without asking first
is
> > a
> > stressful and possibly dangerous experience for the person being
grabbed.
> > I
> > understand the need to help. I will stress in the book what we all know
> > and
> > have been trying to stress and will use humor to do it. The human being
> > is
> > equipped with a mouth and the ability to use it. Please let's learn the
> > following phrases. Repeat after me children:
> > "May I pet your dog."
> > "Do you need help."
> > alternatives to "Do you need help" include "Are you all right?"
> >
> > The implicit thing often thought is "I am worried about you. Do you
need
> > help?" (can I stop worrying) and the other question is "I have nobody to
> > help and here is a person I can help." I do not like this attitude much
> > since I dislike being an object attracting folks who feel so non-needed
> > and
> > attracting them for their needs not my help By the way, you can tell
that
> > kind. Those are the ones who keep insisting and hang on after you have
> > said
> > you do not need help.
> >
> > On a more ominous note, I think there are men who physically grab blind
> > women for the same reason they would like to grab or touch a woman or
any
> > kind. You can tell this kind because he is the one who tries to cop a
> > feel
> > of my tit while I am hholding his arm to cross a street.
> >
> > Bottom line, I thin, is that anyone needs to be at least a bit concerned
> > about somebody grabbing them particularly in situations where he might
be
> > trying to pick your pocket or such. The fact is many of that kind are
put
> > off some by dogs.
> >
> > I also think women who are blind get physically contacted more than do
> > blind
> > men. Somebody from AFB wrote a NY Times article about it a few years
ago.
> > I will do my best to get ahold of it. I want AFB in on the book project
> > in
> > some way, by the way.
> >
> > This thing really might take off.
> >
> > E.
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