[bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
- From: "Shelley L. Rhodes" <juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 05 Dec 2006 09:35:03 -0500
I would have reacted the same way laura,
I do not allow people to grab me without my permission, have had issues in
the past with that.
And usually if they grab my elbow or other part of my body without
permission I flinch and pull away usually instantaniously.
Yep have had the men try to cop a feel.
Actually, I remember this one buy.
it was in the Cinncinnatti AirPort, and he was a walking escourt to my next
gate. He grabed my arm, pinned it to his body and marched off, calling me
"love", I told him he could relax as I was being dragged, smile, through the
airport and that my guide dog could follow him, but nothing doing. It was a
nightmare.
Smile, and he physically prevented me from letting go. Never met someone so
strong.
Was very happy when we got to my gate.
Shelley L. Rhodes B.S. Ed, CTVI
and Judson, guiding golden
juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx
Guide Dogs For the Blind Inc.
Graduate Alumni Association Board
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Dog ownership is like a rainbow.
Puppies are the joy at one end.
Old dogs are the treasure at the other.
Carolyn Alexander
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From: "Elizabeth and Burton" <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Tuesday, December 05, 2006 12:23 AM
Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
Reality is grabbing someone, particularly a woman without asking first is a
stressful and possibly dangerous experience for the person being
grabbed. I understand the need to help. I will stress in the book what we
all know and have been trying to stress and will use humor to do it. The
human being is equipped with a mouth and the ability to use it. Please
let's learn the following phrases. Repeat after me children:
"May I pet your dog."
"Do you need help."
alternatives to "Do you need help" include "Are you all right?"
The implicit thing often thought is "I am worried about you. Do you need
help?" (can I stop worrying) and the other question is "I have nobody to
help and here is a person I can help." I do not like this attitude much
since I dislike being an object attracting folks who feel so non-needed and
attracting them for their needs not my help By the way, you can tell that
kind. Those are the ones who keep insisting and hang on after you have
said you do not need help.
On a more ominous note, I think there are men who physically grab blind
women for the same reason they would like to grab or touch a woman or any
kind. You can tell this kind because he is the one who tries to cop a feel
of my tit while I am hholding his arm to cross a street.
Bottom line, I thin, is that anyone needs to be at least a bit concerned
about somebody grabbing them particularly in situations where he might be
trying to pick your pocket or such. The fact is many of that kind are put
off some by dogs.
I also think women who are blind get physically contacted more than do
blind men. Somebody from AFB wrote a NY Times article about it a few years
ago. I will do my best to get ahold of it. I want AFB in on the book
project in some way, by the way.
This thing really might take off.
E.
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