Dear Polly,
Systemically, exclusion is not possible because all is One.
If all is One, each of us is the One.
As One, we cannot be excluded of ourselves.
That leads to an understanding of self-harm when it comes to exclusion.
It is the attempt of cutting of oneself from the One – which of course does not
work.
As such, it can be understood as a post trauma syndrome.
If someone „feels" excluded, he/she feels from the child’s perspective.
It is the perspective of the „outside in“ – the outside world does something to
me, I am the victim.
The „inside out“ perspective of the grown up can have two understandings:
a.) The one who is claiming to exclude me is harming him/herself.
b.) I am trying to cut myself off the One – it might be less painful than…
Exclusion is not a linear action – it does not follow a cause (like: I exclude
you because you did this to me)
Exclusion is a balancing action.
The question is: what is to remain hidden by the exclusion?
Remembering the lovely time we had in Affligem, love from me
Stephanie Hartung
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Am 27.02.2023 um 11:35 schrieb Julie Ulbricht <julie@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>:
Hi Polly
I am interested in your question.
This is a bit far out; but it is an idea that came up very recently and
caught my attention, so may be relevant:
Let us say that part of what we are struggling with as human beings is
something that does not belong to us and in fact does not belong on this
planet. You could say that we have been infiltrated.
This idea resonates for me, as when we do Constellations, or when we look at
young children, we see our essential nature - our purity, which is loving and
which we are trying to get back to by finding a way of releasing/transmuting
what does not belong to us: that which is not innate.
Often we refer to that other aspect of ourselves as trauma (or it's
byproducts); but it seems to me that although trauma is an aspect of that, it
is more than just trauma, but a whole set of beliefs and erroneous ways of
viewing the world, including the belief that we are seperate from others.
Whether such views are all derived in the aftermath of trauma, or whether
they in fact have a 'life' and structure of their own, which would make them
more likely to be the cause of trauma, is an interesting question.
If part of us does not belong on this planet and is not innate, we would
naturally have a sense of not belonging; and yet underneath, when we get
beyond the limited view of that part, we would feel our deep and innate
connection to others, to nature and to life itself.
I'm not used to writing about this subject. It is challenging to express in
words!
Julie
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to
see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that
frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our
love.” Rainer Maria Rilke
Simple Ayurveda
Julie Ulbricht BSc Ayurveda, PG Dip Ayurvedic Medicine
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Subject: [constellationtalk] Exclusion
In my work recently I have had several clients expressing feelings of
exclusion.
I am interesting in opening a conversation here about your experiences with
working with exclusion.
Exploring potential blind spots, unconscious bias and cultural signifiers
especially when a family constellation does not reveal the source of the
exclusion.
Looking forward,
Polly
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