Dear Anngwyn, Barbara and All,
I must say it was a delight to read Anngwyn your strong rebuttal of the
dictatorial, authoritarian, I am in charge and I know best approach
regrettably far too prevalent in the Constellation field. We all
acknowledge the Hellinger contribution and equally I believe it is
important to recognise and acknowledge the short comings. Clearly
facilitators work on the basis of personal predilections and some as
Barbara has pointed out unwittingly step into a re-traumatising field,
never knowing if those experiences were helpful or not, yet knowing for
sure that they were not permanently damaging? How do we learn to
discern? We may prefer to blur the issues, and by not whipping ourselves up
into some kind of frenzy we may comfortably avoid facing the music, facing
the truth of our own predilections.
Best wishes to all,
Robert
On Wed, Apr 19, 2017 at 4:12 PM, anngwyn@xxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Springtime Greetings from Arizona !
In response to Giselle's understandable discomfort, I am reminded of
Bert's early teachings which still resonate for me, which involves, simply
" *Acknowledging What Is* " and he wrote a book with that title. And so
for me, what is that Bert and Sophie have often physically,
emotionally,and spiritually abused, re-traumatized and publicly
humiliated more than a few trusting people in pain, who have appealed to
them for help. For me, as a trauma specialist, this has everything to do
with power over and not much to offer in the genuine interest of healing.
As a result I have taken some distance for many years now, and Bert's
early teachings remain a profound source of inspiration for me, still.
Watching this video, my heart hurt for many reasons. I find it quite
remarkable that thousands will travel far and pay good money to subject
themselves to such abuse and then passively sit, in unexamined,complicit,
silence,for years of top down arrogance and exploitation. In this case, the
one brave voice of protest was excluded. Is this not fascism? Human
nature, I sadly suppose...along with a persistent belief is that there
has to be some bon-bon somewhere deep within such blatant ca-.ca.
Individual discernment is so desperately needed...within what has become
a cult of iconic personalities, and it is also important to not give up on
the wealth of teachings that Bert's philosophical perspective has offered
for so many of us in profound, and for me, life changing ways. I so hope
that no one will ever take any licence to physically, emotionally or
spiritually abuse anyone ever, in blind loyal imitation of such clueless
behavior as we see on this video and many other instances, as well. Please
bear in mind that one of the most important tenets of trauma work is to
never overwhelm an already overwhelmed client and many, if not most, who
come to SCW have some history of trauma. And for me, after working for
many decades, with traumatized people in pain,my heart has come
to understand that it is often more important to be kind, than to be right.
All for now,
Anngwyn St.just Ph.D
www.acst-international.com
http://anngwyn.wisrville.org
