Dear All,
If you are happy, what else matters?
If you are not happy, what else matters?
namaste,
Kenn
P.S. Best wishes for the conference. I wish we could be there, but family comes
first.
Sent from my iPad
On Aug 5, 2012, at 12:24 AM, "Carolyn Zahner" <cpzahner@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear All,
Thank you all for this important thread. I am grateful to all of the teachers
on this forum. Dearest Anutosh, special thanks for your courage in sharing
your personal story!
My comments below are not directed at Woody Allen; nor are they directed at
the beautiful sharing that Anutosh offered. Rather, my comments are a
reflection and questions regarding the larger field that Eimear mentions
below.
As this thread was opening and being explored, I was very intrigued.
Preparing to leave for the North American Systemic Constellations Intensive,
as a faculty member, I was aware of how this discussion dovetailed with my
plans to present and explore the issues inherent to what I call "The Hidden
(or excluded) Field of Women." As Eimear so beautifully writes, we may be
called to recognize the ".complex human relationships that include all the
power dynamics, [have] awareness of whose perspectives get internalised (i.e.
mostly those of the more powerful) in issues of consent, [be] more
integrative of what is felt, seen, known in multiple ways and resonant within
the larger field." Perhaps the historical and present disparity of
socio/political/spiritual and economic power between men and women cannot be
ignored when exploring issues such as consent, "love", and integrated beliefs
of the power structure. Such exploration may require moving into a larger
field.
An expanded field that acknowledges the 5000 years of patriarchal power, with
non-judgment, may view issues of consent and expressed "love and happiness"
very differently. It may acknowledge history and include the reality of the
disenfranchised place of women in culture and how that impacts issues of
consent in women today; through both entanglements and current cultural
structures. It may acknowledge, and challenge, the integrated belief system
that women (and children called women), can only find their inherent value
and meaning by being "chosen" by the powerful or desirable man. This belief
system has strong roots in our past and solid footing in our present. There
are many women, who "love" and "consent" to their abusers, pimps, etc out of
the necessity to live. The larger field may speak to issues of consent, not
from a place of judging this person or that person, but rather, with an
expanded perception of power and its correlation to one's ability to truly
consent.
What happens to the woman who does not consent or who does not agree with her
parents' integrated beliefs of the power structure that shows up in the
Constellation Field as her Family Field? Is she silenced? Does she know to
stay in hiding even within the Constellation itself? The expanded field might
provide space and permission for her to honor her ancestors and refuse to
integrate the belief systems of the power structure. Perhaps a more expanded
field will reveal the universally indigenous source of power from which one
may truly consent or not.
With Gratitude,
Carolyn
Carolyn Zahner, MSW, LISW, Inc
513-697-0260
