[lit-ideas] How do I look (Re: Re: Takiyyah)
- From: Teemu Pyyluoma <teme17@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Fri, 17 Mar 2006 12:18:55 -0800 (PST)
--- John Wager <john.wager1@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> As a footnote on "lying' to women: I think the
> Qu'ran is on to
> something here. I seemed to get into trouble with
> my former wife no
> matter what I said. The cause was a simple question:
> "How do I look?"
> Sometimes a truthful answer got me into trouble, but
> sometimes a lie got
> me into just as much trouble. FINALLY I figured out
> the contexts were
> different. When my ex-wife asked me quite early in
> the morning how she
> looked, she was asking for an hones, truthful reply,
> because she had
> enough time to consider if she wanted to take my
> reaction into
> consideration and change. But when she asked the
> same question on the
> way out the door, she was NOT asking for truth; she
> was asking for
> emotional support and encouragement. "You look
> great! Go get 'em!" was
> they "truthful" reply to that request. What looks
> like a "lie" may just
> be an example of a different mode of expression.
>
Indeed, or as Esa Saarinen, a pop philosopher over
here summed it up: A man and his wife are going to a
party. Man waits for his wife to get ready, and she
finally appears all dressed up and asks "How do I
look?" Now, at this point if the man thinks he is
actually being asked a question, he has already lost.
Cheers,
Teemu
Helsinki, Finland
>
> --
> -------------------------------------------------
> "Never attribute to malice that which can be
> explained by incompetence and ignorance."
> -------------------------------------------------
> John Wager john.wager1@xxxxxxxxxxx
> Lisle, IL, USA
>
>
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