Saying goodbye to anything is heart-wrenching. Yes. And saying goodbye to an animal of any kind is never easy. I've been through this a number of times as the many of you have as well. I've witnessed more of the most painful broken hearts in the loss of an animal than some losing a family member or friend. Some of us can be just that way towards that certain animal. Why does a heart turn that way? My husband has been one of them. He grieved so hard after he lost his last GSD that often to this day he still reminds me: "I'll never want to hurt like that again!" We have often talked about this kind of pain. He said he felt guilty he didn't have those feelings for the loss of his mother, father, etc., when they passed. What makes different heart-connections like this happen when we bond so tightly with an animal? Do we hold some kind of spiritual bond with them? A bond so strong we become one spirit? I know a guy that just lost his horse. His grieving was so powerful he didn't think he could go on living. He wrote about his pain. It was so touching I'll never forget his words. How terrifying and sad to hear. But after some time he did move on which was relieving to hear. But for my husband, he never did get another dog because of this incredible pain that still seems like yesterday. In other words, I feel he has continued to suffer because he has now lost precious days given to him that could've been given to another dog. And the loss for that that dog whoever may have been. But I can't make those decisions for others. To watch such pain at that time when my husband said goodbye to his shepherd was just horrible. I think the most of you or all know what I'm talking about. Kathy Partch <http://www.jokaysedona.com/> www.JoKaySedona.com I'm sharing this information only as a reminder to our selves: Living with a pet means friendship, responsibility and forming a loving bond that can last a lifetime. The sad truth is that many owners outlive their companion animals, forcing them to begin a difficult grieving process not everyone acknowledges or understands. "Whether an animal dies, is lost or stolen or must be placed in a new home, sorrow is a normal and natural reaction to the loss of a beloved friend," according to the Twin Cities-based Animal Humane Society. "But our culture doesn't provide us with the rituals to help us mourn the loss of a companion animal as it does the loss of a human." Like any grieving process, mourning for a pet is a deeply personal experience that will be felt differently depending on the individual, said Dr. Jennifer Scott, a veterinarian at a Veterinary Clinic in MN. "There's no right way to do it," said Scott, who tells clients that it's OK to feel sad after a pet is put down. She said one of the best things for grieving pet owners is to draw on family members and support networks for help. Parents and children: The issue can be especially difficult with children, for whom the death of a pet may be their first experience with mortality. Scott's advice for parents broaching the subject depends on the age of the child, but typically includes holding a memorial, be it planting a tree or drawing a picture - anything to acknowledge the child's feelings. Parents should not hide their sadness or say that a dead pet has simply run off, as it can cause children to feel betrayed when they learn the truth, according to the Humane Society of the United States. Expressing grief in front of children can help assure them that their sadness is an acceptable reaction. In place of a backyard burial, our Family Funeral Home where I live in MN offers private cremation services for pets. Animals are cremated alone and returned to owners in an urn for memorializing. Another reaction by grieving pet owners may be to immediately replace it with a new animal. Scott said that can work for some people, but suggests giving it time before making a new commitment. "I usually tell people to listen to their inner voice on that one," she said, "because sometimes if you get a pet too soon you end up resenting it if it has different needs, or you'll compare that pet to the old one." A big day: Scott has 10 years of experience in the veterinary field, including providing euthanasia services. She also has experience with it in her personal life, having done the procedure on her own pets. "It was one of the things I almost didn't go to vet school over because I didn't think I could do it," Scott said on the prospect of ending the life of an animal. It's never an easy decision to make, she said, but it can help to look at it from the perspective that putting down a pet is often the humane thing to do. "It's kind of a gift we have that we can help end their suffering," Scott said, adding that she's gotten more thank you notes from owners of pets she's put down than those she's healed. "Which is odd, but it shows how big a deal it is for them when they come in for that appointment," she said. "You don't remember all the vaccine visits, but you remember that last day." ============================================================================ POST is Copyrighted 2014. All material remains the property of the original author and of GSD Communication, Inc. NO REPRODUCTIONS or FORWARDS of any kind are permitted without prior permission of the original author AND of the Showgsd-l Management. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Each Author is responsible for the content of his/her post. This group and its administrators are not responsible for the comments or opinions expressed in any post. 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