Paul,
It seems you are confusing two different issues here.
1) In FC we do work to bring back what ever missing pieces of the
family soul that may be causing entanglements.
This does not mean that the client needs or is even allowed to know
everything that goes on with his parents or ancestors. It is none of
his/her business. The ancestors must be honored and their needs
respected. We can only do this work with their blessing and agreement.
In the same way, it is none of the child's business if the parent has
done something, like had an abortion. It MAY be important for them to
know that they have a sibling that is no longer with them. Telling
them that there was a miscarriage is a good way to achieve this.
2) In FC we do not work with "truth" as an absolute. We work with what
appears to move the constellation forward in a positive way. It may
appear within the field that "Mother has done something bad," or
"Father took another woman." This sort of thing shows up sometimes. It
does not need to mean that this is what happened in ordinary life. It
is enough if this "realization" allows for movement and relief in the
field.
We are not moral monitors. It is up to the field and the ancestors to
determine if someone can do effective FC work.
namaste,
Kenn Day
www.soulsolutionshome.com
On Jul 6, 2009, at 3:30 AM, Paul Chung wrote:
Hi Randy,
Let's focus on two points that I take it as fundamental principles in FC:
1) In FC, we work primirary to bring back those who're excluded; abortion is
excluding someone from a system no matter how you described it.
2) In FC, we trust the system, acknowledge phenomenon that is unfolded with
a "Yes" as it is and bring it into our heart.
By acknowledging properly, the guilt is felt and remembered as love. Can a
guilt be felt and turned into love congruently if some part of it is being
ignored?
If a client choose to make lies to siblings of the aborted child by saying
that it's a miscarrage, do you think she/he is ready for FC? If it is from a
FC facilitator, I can only say there's a substantial distance between us.
Paul Chung,
from Hong Kong
2009/7/1 randy <randy@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Hi,
I’m a graduate of the Hellinger Institute of DC and am doing advanced
training with
Heinz Stark. He recently taught us some interesting info I’d like to share.
Never have the parent’s tell the children they had an abortion. This
would make the children insecure.
In general, what happens between the parents is none of the business of the
kids. In cases where
the aborted child claims a place in the birth order, tell the other
children
that mom
had a miscarriage. An abortion is an intentional miscarriage.
The issue with birth order is that the following kids need to know that
someone was in the
womb before them, otherwise they can be confused about where they fit in,
in
the order.
The earliest he has seen an aborted fetus stake its claim to a place in a
families birth order, is
2 ½ to 3 months. This can be tested by using a representative to see if it
stands to take a place in
the line of siblings.
Abortion is not equivalent to murder. But in cases where the abortion
happens very late, like 6 months
or later, the perpetrator energy has a similar effect as a murder to the
family system.
Hope this is helpful,
Randy
www.randygoldberg.org <http://www.randygoldberg.org/>
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