Hi Randy,
Let's focus on two points that I take it as fundamental principles in FC:
1) In FC, we work primirary to bring back those who're excluded; abortion is
excluding someone from a system no matter how you described it.
2) In FC, we trust the system, acknowledge phenomenon that is unfolded with
a "Yes" as it is and bring it into our heart.
By acknowledging properly, the guilt is felt and remembered as love. Can a
guilt be felt and turned into love congruently if some part of it is being
ignored?
If a client choose to make lies to siblings of the aborted child by saying
that it's a miscarrage, do you think she/he is ready for FC? If it is from a
FC facilitator, I can only say there's a substantial distance between us.
Paul Chung,
from Hong Kong
2009/7/1 randy <randy@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Hi,
I’m a graduate of the Hellinger Institute of DC and am doing advanced
training with
Heinz Stark. He recently taught us some interesting info I’d like to share.
Never have the parent’s tell the children they had an abortion. This
would make the children insecure.
In general, what happens between the parents is none of the business of the
kids. In cases where
the aborted child claims a place in the birth order, tell the other
children
that mom
had a miscarriage. An abortion is an intentional miscarriage.
The issue with birth order is that the following kids need to know that
someone was in the
womb before them, otherwise they can be confused about where they fit in,
in
the order.
The earliest he has seen an aborted fetus stake its claim to a place in a
families birth order, is
2 ½ to 3 months. This can be tested by using a representative to see if it
stands to take a place in
the line of siblings.
Abortion is not equivalent to murder. But in cases where the abortion
happens very late, like 6 months
or later, the perpetrator energy has a similar effect as a murder to the
family system.
Hope this is helpful,
Randy
www.randygoldberg.org <http://www.randygoldberg.org/>
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