[lit-ideas] Re: Tune and Turn Off - Panic Attacks
- From: "Andy Amago" <aamago@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Mon, 15 May 2006 09:51:53 -0400
From everything I know about the inner child, it is not a notion, it is a
reality. The inner child is the childlike part of ourselves, yes, the hurt
part of ourselves, and *everybody* has been hurt. Some less, some more,
some (many) extreme (child prostitution, beatings, living in war torn
areas, and on and on). The inner child carries the untamed, misdirected
emotion, in that sense it's the brat. I think describing any child,
including an inner child, as a brat is unhelpful and counterproductive.
Most of the world operates from their child state, proof positive is all
the conflict (war, domestic violence, all conflict).
Embracing and nurturing the inner child is how to quiet him/her. That's
why honor is so self and other defeating, because instead of focusing on
what one wants, needs, feels and how to improve one's life, one focuses on
the perceived slight and forgets the self, even to being willing to kill
the self to cure the insult. It focuses on revenge and essentially looks
outside one's self for nurturing, but nurturing doesn't exist outside the
self.
The adult state doesn't need to use conflict to "resolve" problems. Yet
conflict is virtually the only way problems are "resolved". Suggest a
non-violent alternative and it's considered leftist or unpatriotic. The
adult part is the non-emotional rational part. Rational for most of the
world equates to book learning, which ironically gives inner children
something to fight over.
Gestalt is more or less psychodrama. Transactional analysis deals with ego
states, adult, child and parent. I'm sorry that people think this is all
mumbo jumbo psychobabble, which is to be expected, since the inner child is
by definition not visible. But, given that the world is a great big huge
enactment of Lord of the Flies, but without any adults to come to the
rescue, there can be no doubt that it is not the adults who are conflicting
with each other. That's why I think feeding hungry children, and their
hungry grown counterpart inner children, would be so extremely productive
in ending conflict. It certainly would get the ball rolling in the other
direction. It's not pie in the sky wishful thinking. Just the opposite
has been done, and just the opposite has been the result.
> [Original Message]
> From: Carol Kirschenbaum <carolkir@xxxxxxxx>
> To: <lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
> Date: 5/15/2006 4:57:47 AM
> Subject: [lit-ideas] Re: Tune and Turn Off - Panic Attacks
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> >> It's physically impossible
> >> to hold one's breath enough to die.
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> ck: Under water would be an exception!
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> > Not sure I agree with the inner child theory Andy supports
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> ck: The "inner child" is a notion used mainly in gestalt therapy
experiments
> (experiential therapy guided by 'gestalt' principles developed by Perls).
> "Inner child" usually refers to some very fragile part of a personality
that
> received a wound at an early age. (Think "molested child.") Andy's use of
> the term is quite idiosyncratic. More like an inner brat.
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> Carol
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