[bookshare-discuss] Re: sorry
- From: "liz halperin" <lizzersagain@xxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bookshare-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Sun, 6 Jan 2008 23:32:48 -0800
Shelley asks about whether we ever truly get past or through grief. A very
wise woman told me once: no, it just becomes more familiar. So true, I have
found. The animal love of my life, my retired racer greyhound, has been dead
about 7 years now. I still intensely grieve for him. (He knew both of my
first guide dogs.) While the grief is no less frequent nor less intense, it
is more familiar, so I can accept it better. Doing that same process now
with the loss of Gustavo: almost a year. Grief no less intense or less
frequent, just more familiar and fewer tears. (GDB grads-write me off-list
if you haven't heard about the puppy truck crash in the mtns.)
Liz in Portland, 2 weeks to guide dog school again!
Liz Halperin
Portland, OR
lizzersagain@xxxxxxxxxxx
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From: Shelley L. Rhodes [mailto:juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx]
Sent: Sunday, January 06, 2008 5:13 PM
To: bookshare-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [bookshare-discuss] Re: sorry
Even in losing a beloved dog, I just kept crying and crying when I knew
Judson was retiring. I know it isn't the same, but when you work with a dog
for 7 years, living and working, snuggling playing, healing, being sick, and
exploring and expanding together, well it was darn hard.
Smile, and I still think of him. I know it is going to be truly aweful when
he has to go to the Rainbow Bridge. I thought I had it pretty under
control, after all I had three months to think about it, decide it, and work
through it, but... man, the day I got into that cab without my dog, and the
driver asked me where Judson was.. and the dispatcher wishing me luck on my
next dog, I just lot it then and there. And that is a hard thing for me as
I don't cry in public, not very easy to do, being teased as a child about
it, I don't show emotion if I can help it. Am learning to cry again, it is
hard, smile. But... that trip out to oregon has been the loniest trip I
have ever taken in my life, and I felt well whole again once I had a dog
leash in my hand and my Guinevere on the other end. I know it isn't the
same, but grief is the same I think.
Grief is a hard thing to work with and through, and do we truly ever ever
get over it?
I don't think so sometimes.
Shelley L. Rhodes M.A., VRT, CTVI
and Guinevere, Golden lady Guide
juddysbuddy@xxxxxxxxxxxx
Guide Dogs For the Blind Inc.
Graduate Alumni Association Board
www.guidedogs.com
More than Any other time, When i hold a beloved book in my hand, my
limitations fall from me, my spirit is free.
- Helen Keller
----- Original Message -----
From: "Pat Ferguson" <patferguson@xxxxxxxxx>
To: <bookshare-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Sunday, January 06, 2008 1:04 PM
Subject: [bookshare-discuss] Re: sorry
Yes, and some times the tears come when you least expect it, and even
in public when you are not prepared.
Lovingly,
Pat Ferguson
At 09:23 PM 1/5/2008, you wrote:
>Yea, and it comes in such waves, when you least expect it, and sometimes
>the
>numbness is so thick that nothing makes any sense.
>Sharon
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Ann Parsons [mailto:akp@xxxxxxxxxxxx]
>Sent: Saturday, January 05, 2008 10:15 PM
>To: bookshare-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
>Subject: [bookshare-discuss] Re: sorry
>
>
>Hi all,
>
>Yes, it is difficult to lose a parent. My mother said, after my
>grandfather died that it was as if the earth trembled for her. Having
>lost both parents, I know about grieving firsthand.
>
><sigh> One of the things I have found is that this particular society
>is unmindful of the needs of those who grieve. we used to be, but
>aren't any longer.
>
>Used to be one would wear black for a year to signify that you were in
>in mourning. This gave you license for behavior which wouldn't be
>condoned under other circumstances.
>
>Maithe, if you're reading this, don't be surprised at anything that may
>happen to you in the next few weeks and months. My short term memory
>went to Hell in a handbasket when my dad died. I couldn't remember
>what people said to me five minutes ago. And the weirdest things can
>set you off, either to weep or to be angry. Grief is a very private
>and personal thing, and it affects each person differently depending on
>the person grieving and for whom they grieve.
>
>Blessings,
>Ann P.
>
>--
>Ann K. Parsons
>Portal Tutoring
>EMAIL: akp@xxxxxxxxxxxx
>http://www.portaltutoring.info
>"All that is gold does not glitter,
>Not all those who wander are lost."
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