Hi Bob - Thx for your response. I'd be interested in your thoughts -- as an
attorney [hardly "mere"!] -- after you read the article.
Attorneys already doing mediation and CD may not need to be convinced about
how the litigation process can be "traumatizing"
[actually to professionals as well as clients ... everyone is pumping
adrenaline--]
But I wonder if attorneys could use their understanding of this neuroscience of
trauma to help convert folks into the CD process when they
initially come in for a consultation?
Enjoy the rest of this memorial weekend,
best
Joy
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On May 25, 2014, at 7:53 PM, Robert Merlin rmerlin@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [CollabLaw]
wrote:
Although I am a mere attorney, without the expertise of psychologists, I
firmly believe in your theory, Joy. I have been telling clients and others
who would listen that we cannot put a price tag on the emotional cost of
litigation or the benefit of being finished with the disputes. I look forward
to reading the article to learn more. Thanks for sharing this with all of us.
Sent from my iPhone
Bob Merlin
On May 25, 2014, at 8:43 AM, "Joy Dryer jdryerphd@xxxxxxxxx [CollabLaw]"
<CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear Colleagues:
When I got home tonight, I began to leaf thru the NYT Sunday Magazine for 25
May. The Magazine reports about all aspects of the body,
from dieting to bacteria to cancer to PTSD [appropriate for remembering vets
on Memorial Day].
I was drawn to the article “How do you heal a traumatized mind?” by Jeneen
Interland:
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/magazine/a-revolutionary-approach-to-treating-ptsd.html?_r=0
I highly recommend it to you: it’s a fine summary of Bessel van der Kolk’s
history and main theory that trauma is held by, and in, the body.
“The mind follows the body.” [not the reverse].
He makes several important points noted in this article:
1. There may be a difference between trauma and Trauma, i.e. long-term,
chronic abuse and
neglect [which he calls developmental trauma disorder] and one-off acute
traumatic event[s].
The body may respond with a similar destructive cycle:
2. When faced with a threat, our amygdala in our limbic system’s
emotional center, triggers the release of hormones
[e.g. adrenaline,
cortisol ] which cause our hearts to beat faster and gives us energy to
fight or flight or freeze.
3 . “But if the threat isn’t vanquished..” “… the amygdala keeps sounding
the alarm, i.e., we keep producing stress hormones
which wreaks havoc on...our bodies.”
4. “Memories of the traumatic event invade patients’ subconscious thoughts,
sending them back into fight-or-fight at the slightest provocation.”
5. “They take leave of their bodies, …cannot describe their own physical
sensations,” i.e. self-numb.
6. Treatment’s goal “should be to resolve this disconnect…by helping
patients tolerate their own bodily sensations, then they’ll
be able to process the trauma
themselves.”
I am now applying this conceptualization to a subspecialty of mine. For me,
this article so underlines my growing conviction, over the past
few years, for the need to
inform and to educate other professionals to help our patients understand
the emotional basics when considering
separation and/or divorce. It’s so clear to me that
going to court traumatizes both spouses. A “litigating” attorney [consult
with a surgeon, and
you’ll likely end up in surgery --] might promise X amount of money in
alimony, or to retain full time residential custody of children…
but s/he’ll not likely
warn a prospective client that the win-loose, black- white litigation
process could possibly create a PTSD like reaction in the client!
That’s why I’m such a strong advocate of the non-court Mediation or
Collaborative Divorce processes that help avoid “amygdala hijacks”:
the mutual, respectful,
client-centered processes help “lower the volume” and keeps the focus on the
client’s rational, executive functioning
frontal-orbital lobe ‘on-line’ so s/he can gather the data
and examine options needed to make well-informed decisions.
Well, at any rate, on this Memorial weekend, take a look at this article:
it may help us all deepen our “witnessing” – even celebration –
of our veterans of both
foreign wars as well as childhood wars.
Have a memorable Memorial Day.
Joy
Joy A. Dryer Ph.D.
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