I recently conducted a 4-way in which one of the coaches, with the permission
of both parties, was present. It was one of the most productive 4-ways we've
ever had. The coach was quiet when talking about "legal issues," but praised,
summarized, and encouraged expression when discussions got difficult. Whenever
either party got "off track" emotionally, the coach brought them back, and it
was wonderful. I think the presence of the coaches at some of the more
difficult 4-ways can be invaluable. Also, your participation agreement should
already include the whole team.
Lindsey Ladouceur
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From: Robin Abrahamson Masson
To: CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Monday, August 23, 2004 10:43 AM
Subject: [CollabLaw] Role of coaches
Greetings, fellow collaborators,
I am about to commence a collaborative divorce case in which both parties
have coaches, whom they want to attend the collaborative 4-way
meetings. Since I've never had coaches attend before, I am wondering how
to handle this. Some specific questions are:
1. Do we have the coaches sign the participation agreement, too?
2. Do the coaches participate in all the discussions as full parties --
what's their role in the discussion?
3. Are there any suggestions any of you more experienced folks have to
optimize the experience for our clients and have the coaches make the best
contribution to the process? FYI, one coach is a minister and the other is
a therapist.
Thanks in advance for any wisdom you have to offer from your
experiences. You can email me privately if you prefer to have this
discussion off-list.
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Robin Abrahamson Masson, Esq.
Wiggins & Masson, LLP
308 N. Tioga St.
P.O. Box 399
Ithaca, NY 14851
tel: 607.272.0479
fax: 607.273.0502
www.wigginsandmasson.com
Member, Collaborative Family Lawyers of Central New York
www.collab-law.com
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