Gary-I love this and feel the same way. Although I could not have expressed it
this eloquently. May I use your words with our NM group?
Very truly,
Bobbie Batley
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On Mar 30, 2019, at 7:54 AM, gary
gary@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:gary@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> [CollabLaw]
<CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>> wrote:
I have enjoyed reading the replies on the issue of little "c".
It does happen that we are enticed to act beyond the norm, to believe that
facts of the case require us to act beyond otherwise good judgement. I am
routinely requested to provide service in a manner that could undermine the
integriy of the work.
These requests are almost always fear based with the fear being that the
prescribed way of doing things somehow don't apply in this situation. That
something terrible will occur without our acquiescence.
These requests also play on our ego, that we are the one who must save the day,
lest some terrible fate befall the client.
Fear and ego.
We must be clear in our conviction and when faltering, seek support and
consultation.
We must strive to manage our ego, our own narcissism that we are somehow the
only one available to keep things well.
When we let go of fear and hold our ego in check, the allure of little "c"
subsides.
Clients may go. We may not be there as they would wish us to be.
However, should things not transpire as they would have wished. We remain
available for their possible return.
If that should transpire their faith in us is heightened. Why? Because we
maintained our integrity and that creates trust. That serves the process, our
client and ourselves.
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
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From: "Robert Merlin rmerlin@xxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:rmerlin@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
[CollabLaw]" <CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>>
Date: 2019-03-28 8:19 p.m. (GMT-05:00)
To: CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Cc: Lorrie Kehl-Paul <lorrie@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:lorrie@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>>
Subject: Re: [CollabLaw] Ideas for Advanced Symposium Training in NM
Absent the signed contract and disqualification provision, call it what you
will, but it is NOT the Collaborative Process. Professionals are free to
practice as they want, but they should not claim to use the Collaborative
Process unless they are following the rules. When Stu Webb created this
concept, he intended the attorney disqualification to be THE distinguishing
characteristic. There is a reason why the Uniform Laws Commission made the
signed Participation Agreement and attorney disqualification requirements of
the Collaborative Process. 18 jurisdictions now have the UCLA. Feel free to
contact me if you want help adopting it in New Mexico.
Bob Merlin
Sent from my iPhone
On Mar 28, 2019, at 6:31 PM, Bobbie Batley
bbatley@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:bbatley@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> [CollabLaw]
<CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx<mailto:CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>> wrote:
Hi all –
The NM Collaborative Practice Group is planning a fall 2019 Symposium. Our
community has been struggling with something that keeps bubbling up. Over the
last 5 years give or take, there has been a development of practitioners in our
community that do not feel the need for signing a Collaborative Agreement with
a disqualification requirement. Please don’t shoot the messenger – I am “old
school”. The folks doing this are calling it “little C” and have only recently
begun to see issues with this. We are looking for insight from other
communities that may have struggled with this AND we are looking for some
speakers on this topic.
Any help from this group would be sooo appreciated!
Very truly,
Bobbie Batley
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