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One reason fathers may more like "failures" at home than they do at work
may have to do with their openness to being taught.This is so true it hurts me.I was laughing with a new father friend of mine about the whole birthing processand what the father's role in it is supposed to be. Some people say we'll be coachingour labouring wives which is pretty rich considering labour is a game we've never playedor even seen. Other people say we don't have to DO anything- we just have to "be thereemotionally" which is another way of saying "don't act like you normally would, act likeyour wife's best friend, the one you actually don't like very much although she's kinda hot".Maybe in a generation or two after 30 or 40 years of a culture expecting engagement andattachment from fathers, parenting won't seem so foreign to men and they'll feel and actuallybe better at it. My kids will be changing my diaper by then!David Savory
