good luck. This is a big change that at least two of us have already
gone through.
But it's a real opportunity for you to decide what's important and
what ain't, and you may be surprised at some of the realizations you
make, and how much of what you thought was important is really just
inertia.
I personally found that the suburbs were over rated, and that I was
only living in them because my ex wanted to. I get that some people
have different preferences, but their preferences are not my
preferences. I'm a city mouse, and I like it, and now I have the
freedom to accept that part of myself without apology to anyone. And
I'm much much happier for realizing it and accepting it.
I love living by myself. Not only can I not envision getting married
ever again, I have a hard time envisioning cohabbing again. I can eat
when I want to, and goof off when I want to, and focus when I want to.
I don't need to check in with nobody. I do worry sometimes about
getting sick or getting hurt and dying of starvation in my own pool of
piss, but wanting to have a nurse is a poor reason to make an
emotional commitment to anyone.
Then again, Chuck said he'd never get remarried either, and here we
are. He's even more cynical than I am, so I'm not closing the door on
the possibility. But I'm not going to force it open, either.
On Tue, Jun 2, 2020 at 2:03 PM chuck goolsbee <cg@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Very cool John. I can say that living alone 2013-2017) was really good for my
soul. Really helped me get my head on straight.
Hope it works out well for you.
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