[lit-ideas] Unfinished Business
- From: Andy Amago <aamago@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Thu, 19 Apr 2007 14:03:33 -0400 (EDT)
I said "flip side of which," but unfinished business is a bad thing. The best
it can offer is something like stage mothering. In all cases it's a dismissal
of the child, since the child is subordinated to the needs/wants/hatreds of the
parent. All these Baby Einstein tapes aren't for the kid. They're for the
competitive parent who wants the best kid to be proud of, a variation on the
granite countertop. The irony is that Einstein never listened to Baby Einstein
tapes.
-----Forwarded Message-----
>From: Andy Amago <aamago@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
>Sent: Apr 19, 2007 1:46 PM
>To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
>Subject: [lit-ideas] Re: Gun control
>
>I couldn't agree more. (BTW, I loved Martin Guerre. It haunted me.) It's
>ironic I think that karate for children is so popular. Powerless feeling
>parents sending the kids to karate so the kids will feel the power the parents
>don't feel and will protect the parents; i.e., another way parents can draw
>sustenance from their children, which they do all (most) of the time anyway,
>when they do anything at all. There's a whole concept called "unfinished
>business" which means that parents use children to fulfill their own thwarted
>ambitions and desires, the flip side of which is their fears and hatreds.
>Also, I want to say that my comments about fathers and fathering do NOT apply
>to you, and I'm not just being civil either.
>
>
>
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