Thanks guys, I am glad to inform you we are now officially married. Mrs is currently resting after hard of day at Verona, of well... looking for a place to have lunch, having lunch, resting, looking for place to have dinner, having dinner... Tough life. As for being in control. I gave a speech at a wedding because such is the tradition (or so I was told). It was about how things happen, because I needed something to focus my adoration on. My point, I think, was that ordinary big things happen at once: like getting a new job, you sign a contract and that is it. Or a new diagnozis: this is what you have, here's the pills, thank you, goodbye. While the really big things such as relationships just happen one tiny thing at a time: cup of coffee, second morning, moving stuff in, "our stuff"... Only time I thing I was asked anything was on the wedding day, and I think the answer was a foregone conclusion. Cheers, Teemu Fatalistic, happy, Verona, Italy at a very weird internet cafe: blue neon lights, underground, noisy italians playing shoot-em-up over the net, and what I think was Chopin playing, followed by a Chanson?!? ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs ------------------------------------------------------------------ To change your Lit-Ideas settings (subscribe/unsub, vacation on/off, digest on/off), visit www.andreas.com/faq-lit-ideas.html