In a message dated 5/29/2010 11:28:38 P.M., molleo1@xxxxxxxxxxx writes: I sent two letters a few days ago, both of which appeared in my sent items box. But they never appeared in my Inbox, which I like to check for accuracy in case I missed something when I proof read it. I know one got through because Mr. Speranza sent a response. The other one referred to Congressman Patrick Murphy. I would appreciate it if you received that one if you let me know. About once a month I have to resubscibe to fix one thing or another. It had same subject line as this one. Thanks. Veronica Caley, Milford, MI ---- Veronica. I have just used the search-engine at the lit-ideas files, and indeed, the post where you referred to me as the 'Grice expert' ALSO included the bit about the P. Murphy. I skipped that because I was so excited you were quoting me that I made my point without going through the details of your post. I LOVE R. Maddow. I think she is GREAT. She is NOT a journalist, of course! More of a showwoman! So I can imagine the interview. The point was about sexual orientation, etc. (She is a lesbian, Rachel, no? She is never seen in tabloids going out with different men! Just joking). Anyway... So, Murphy qua war veteran (be careful there, because once a VETERAN, no longer a soldier -- really) says that he would support the 'don't ask don't tell' because what "a man does in his bed" or closet is irrelevant for his job done, etc. ---- I share the feeling! But surely it's more complex than that! I DON'T THINK the issue should arise in that no reason should be given! But I recall Maddow also interviewing the same army member who DID come out, and there was a debate as to whether he could REMAIN in the army. The 'don't ask don't tell' sounds like hypocrysy, and this soldier who DID tell even if nobody ASKED him also raises a Gricean point. The 'justification' by Murphy seems simplistic. There is a LOT written about male bonding, etc. and there are arguments against and for it. But basically, the main argument is that a bed is a bed is a bed. But in the barracks, a bed is a bed is a bed IN THE BARRACKS. Not to forget the SHOWERS! So, knowing MALES, a lot of sniggering, abuse, discrimination SHOULD ensue if somone self-airs, "I'm homosexual". Not that words fail THERE. "Don't ask, don't tell". Tell WHAT? It seems that ALL words labelling 'sexuality' are sort of wrong. "I'm straight". "I never asked you". Note that 'straight' sounds even gross when it comes to FEMALES! Or not! J. L. Speranza Bordighera, etc. ------------------------------------------------------------------ To change your Lit-Ideas settings (subscribe/unsub, vacation on/off, digest on/off), visit www.andreas.com/faq-lit-ideas.html