Those of you who read Sarah Peyton's Bernried talk in issue 25 of the Knowing
Field and her interview in issue 24 or who know the work if Daniel Siegel, will
see that trauma is experienced via our right brain and our body and a statement
of intent would need to come from our left brain. I therefore agree with what
Anngwyn is saying.
If this person was abandoned by her mother for two years that's likely to be a
major trauma but you would need to be able to come alongside the client and
feel into that experience with her. How dissociated is she? The way out of
trauma is the same as the way it entered, via the body, through the visceral
expression of rage, terror and grief and if you haven't been to those places
personally yourself it is likely to be very difficult for you as a facilitator
to accompany her there. In addition to Sarah and Daniel Siegel, the work of
Peter Levine makes useful reading on this topic.
Best wishes
Barbara
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On 8 Jul 2014, at 10:42, "anngwyn anngwyn@xxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]"
<ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Greetings from Zurich,
Many traumatized people are initially unable to clearly formulate their
intention in any linear verbal or other , so called rational context..does
this mean we should not agree to work with them because they are unable
clearly articulate their "intention" ? In a cross cultural reality it does
not seem either reasonable nor kind to insist that all traumatized people who
are suffering here in our world, and in serious need of help , conform to
some Eurocentric psychological model of initial presentation...of clearly
stated ... "intent".
Warm Regards
Anngwyn St. Just Ph.D.
www.acst-international .com
http://anngwyn.wisrville.org
In a message dated 07/07/14 12:49:08 US Mountain Standard Time,
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx writes:
What is the client's formulated intent?
best regards
Heiki Eesmaa
On Mon, Jul 7, 2014 at 3:03 PM, daniela.terrile@xxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear all
I have a question on a mother issue, and I ask your kind advice on how to
better treat my client
My client (woman) has spent the first 2 years of her childhood far from
mammy (in Iran) because mother wanted to finish studies and had no time for
her. Family (mother and father and daughter were living in Belgium (Europe)
This was an accidental birth and the mother decided (against the wish of her
husband) to send the child back to Iran to her grand parents
Once back to Belgian (where the family used to live) the child had a normal
life, 2 more sisters in the family were born.
At the age of 12 mother started to become depressive and the young girl was
involved in the family life (helping 2 sisters, preparing cooking and
managing the house).
At the age of 16 mother told the child that she had 'fun' with her father,
like they were in a couple, and the mother was very allusive to the fact
that the young daughter was the new 'partner' of her husband and that she
had stolen her place (as if she was his wife)
This was not true of course, and my client was responsible and felt obliged
to take care of the 2 sisters and of the house because she was the elder
The couple split and got divorce sooner after
Father came back to Iran, and daughter is now married (26) to a young
Iranian man: both are happily living in BXL. Daughter has a wonderful
relationship with her father and once a year she is going to visit him in
Iran
We have done 1 constellation in a group, and it was clear that relationship
between daughter and mother is not good. My client is hating her mother, and
she cannot bear her life's style. She is screaming all the time, yelling to
her and they have nothing in common.
How to start the reconciliation movement? How to feel where the energy is?
Can you pls advice?
Thank you
Daniela
Daniela.terrile@xxxxxxxxx
