Could it be that a person who feels transsexual is identified with someone
from the opposite sex or with the fate of someone in the family or belonging
to the family who has suffered a lot because of his or her sexual identity
(both perpetrator or victim can be related to their family)? In the times of
our (grand-)parents this was very common, not in our time anymore. Think
about inheriting the family property by the son instead of the daughter, not
being allowed to study for a woman, being ridiculed as a man when he was not
able to earn the living anymore and the woman had to take a job, being
murdered because of homosexuality etc.
Could there be any issue with honouring the mother (and the father) as the
ones who have given you your life as it is?
Could it be a personal trauma that has shifted something in the brain and
therefore the person starts to react as the opposite sex? For a girl this
could be a sexual trauma, for the boy a territorial trauma, usually quickly
followed by another trauma before the first one is resolved.
There is a difference between the physical aspect of the gender and the
hormone balance. For instance, a woman who has gone through menopause will
react in a much more male way than a woman who is still high in oestrogen.
The postmenopausal woman will respond to situations in a more male way with
defending her territory. This can lead to great difficulties in the
relationship if the partners don't understand the biology of this. Because
all of the sudden there are now two territorial beings in the house,
fighting over things that was never an issue before, like having your own
room, place, seat, work etc.
The main thing I think when you do systemic work is to keep in mind the
question of the client and not assume too quickly that they want to change
the situation as it is. And of course stay in tune with the spirit that
guides the system anyway.
These were the thoughts that came to my mind when I read the question.
Kind regards
Margreet Mossel,
The Netherlands.
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Onderwerp: [ConstellationTalk] Transgendered Individuals in family systems
Hello everyone
As a related topic to human sexuality, I am wondering if anyone has any
experience or knowledge of case studies of transgendered individuals doing a
family constellation, and the effects of the family system on their feeling
that they were born with their physical gender not matching their
emotional/mental/psychic gender.
I have heard of people going ahead with the operations to change gender,
only to change their minds later on. I am wondering how a constellation can
help get a deeper insight into their life, before going ahead with a sex
change operation.
Anita Roy
Canada
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