Dear Francesca,
I wish all our colleagues around the world and those who are studying
Systemic Constellations would keep your statement in mind: "There is nothing
to fix, but there are many things to honor."
Thank you for sharing it.
Fondly,
Stephen
On Sun, Jul 25, 2010 at 12:30, francescamasonboring <sboring@xxxxxxxx>wrote:
Thank you Margaret for your statement on Ctalk:
"The main thing I think when you do systemic work is to keep in mind the
question of the client and not assume too quickly that they want to change
the situation as it is. And of course stay in tune with the spirit that
guides the system anyway."
Although your posting may not imply "Spirit"- it does encourage me to post
agreement with, and gratitude for Michael's posting regarding the
"Two-Spirit" people. At times there can be a painful sense of isolation for
gay/lesbian individuals- or they may be excluded to some degree by their
family and I have in a constellation explained to those in the Circle the
Native tradition of acknowledging the destiny/calling of those who are
Two-Spirited. I then sometimes feel compelled to ask participants in the
Circle to listen and see if any of those in the person's ancestry who were
also Two-Spirited, (or who had a deep understanding and acceptance of the
Two-Spirit people)- would like them to stand as their representatives behind
the person who is gay/lesbian. It is clear in this organic constellation
that this is not a new phenomenon, and there is a movement in the whole of
the Circle as some are "called" to stand as a gay or lesbian ancestor in
support of the person who is Two-Spirit.
My foundation is not in psychotherapy, which until the mid 70's considered
homosexuality a mental illness. My foundational tradition is based in Native
American philosophy and the teaching of very ordinary elders. (Many things
are considered in some way ordinary/natural- and everything is considered in
some way holy- a view point which often invites paradox or duality as norms
in creation.)
We are all on a journey and in constellations we have the opportunity to
stand with someone for a moment to support their journey. There is nothing
to fix, but there are many things to honor.
Thank you Chris for your earlier posting of caution. And Vinay, thank you
for teaching from your heart.
All My Relations,
Francesca
