You know, Noam Chomsky recently married, perhaps it was last year? Anyway, I
think he's 85 or 86 years old.
Miriam
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From: blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Carl Jarvis
Sent: Sunday, April 17, 2016 11:14 AM
To: blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
I have no illusions as to my irresistible charm and appeal toward those
youthful, desirable young women in my life. At 81, I am at best, seen as
"sweet", or "Funny". I can't count the number of times a young woman has
said, "You're very good looking...for your age."
Now that's the kiss of death to any thoughts of having a mid life fling. I
wonder what a mid life fling is called when we guys are long in the tooth?
A wishful flashback?
But all of that is academic because I have a sure fire "fling controller"
named Cathy. I met Cathy ten years after becoming totally blind, and a good
five years prior to my second wife and my divorce.
During those five years of working together, I developed great respect for
the talent and wisdom that was a great part of Cathy. Sure, being a human
male type guy, I knew that she was attractive. She was being sought after
by all the eligible men in the Department, and several who were not so
eligible. But thinking of having an affair was something that I found alien
to my thinking. Not only was it a violation of my wedding vows, it was
disrespectful to both my wife and to the desired person.
Still, it is interesting to look back on those days and see just how quickly
my feelings toward Cathy moved from liking her as a coworker, to that of
full blown love for a sexy, desirable woman.
Now, after 35 years together, I must say that it is a darn good thing that
we are in love with the entire Being that makes us who we are, since
neither of us would qualify as "desirable" by the demands of today's youth.
I recall reading that when he was at the end of his life, King David had
young maidens tucked into bed alongside him. I presume this was done to
rekindle the spark of life. But David died.
Too bad that he didn't have a long term love who could have sat beside him,
holding his hand as he left this world. Those old Bible stories do cause me
to think that we have not come so far in some of our basic attitudes.
Carl Jarvis
On 4/16/16, joe harcz Comcast <joeharcz@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I understand.blond hair.
Let me tell you a little story here....
I've been legally blind for decades and am a standard unit horny old
fart, though less so than in my younger days for sure.
This said I went to Catholic school here in Michigan and one of the
prettiest girls (actually downright sexy and a wet dream) was a girl
who looked like the blond types of the sixties with long blond hair
and long legs and all that stuff that befuddles we straight sort of
guys from that era.
Now I admit that I had more than lust in my heart for this lady way
back then. Some would call it a "crush".. Bullshit.
We all know that is pure and utter bullshit guys and gals.
I wanted to do the "belly bump" with her so badly I cannot express it
in words.
Yes, I was and am still nowadays a sort of pig I guess.
Regardless, and keeping on topic, more than four decades later I met
this lady at a family event, a wedding. I hugged her and we talked
endlessly. I wasn't even flirting btw....
I knew she wasn't the same woman of forty years ago but in my mind and
I mean this really she was still the petite cheerleader at St. Mary's
that I held in my perverted mind's eye. She had that long and straight
cheek...
She had those long and shapely legs. She had the finest ass in the
county, excuse my candor here. She was a little small on the breast
size, but I never was a "breast man". And folks she had the prettiest
face in our year book. And yes I noticed faces!!
My non-blind mother commented the way home how "old" this lady looked.
I said, "Jesus you sure know how to freak up a fantasy."
Bottom line is again I'm a sort of pig I guess, and I have these
fantasies of how people look like as if that really matters...Tongue in
people.
Seriously, now and this is one of the Blessed events of blindness here....
I don't give a rat's ass of how people look. I really don't anymore.
I've been in love with and find women sexy and all that whom I never
would have found so when sighted.
I'm abbreviating things here.
And for my friends who are gay or have other experiences on this list
please
note that I'm only talking about my personal perspective as a straight
male
who came to puberty in the sixties.
I do not at all diminish the aspirations or attractions of same sex
I'm just a sort of aging blind guy who is straight and who is just that.
Whenever I get together with my old classmates which is once per month
nowadays they all really look the same they did decades ago to me.
I prefer that notion. I prefer the notion that I look the same.
Please don't ruin the only good thing about going blind yawl.\\
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From: "Roger Loran Bailey (Redacted sender "rogerbailey81" for DMARC)"
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To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 3:08 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
You remind me of a conversation I had in a bar once. One of the
effects of
my blindness is that whenever I meet someone new the main subject of
conversation is my eyesight. It gets a bit tiresome. So because of
that I
was talking about the last time I saw a human being well enough to
see what they looked like. It was a nurse in a facility where I was
about to have eye surgery. Someone asked me if she was pretty. As a
matter of fact,
she was. She was quite attractive. Then a guy spouted off, "1988? I
bet she's not pretty now!" Now, let me remind all women who might be
reading this and getting a little age on them. I didn't say that! I
am only repeating what someone else said!
On 4/15/2016 2:27 PM, joe harcz Comcast wrote:
If it is any consolation we are all still young, beautiful, handsome
and
look just like the last time you saw us....Smile...
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To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 2:06 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Anniversary
Today is the twenty-eighth anniversary of the last time I saw a
human being well enough to tell what they looked like.
