[ SHOWGSD-L ] Re: lists
- From: Stormy435@xxxxxxx
- To: pmick12@xxxxxxxxxxx, TISHW@xxxxxxx, showgsd-l@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Fri, 28 Dec 2007 12:50:20 EST
Yes, what Peggy writes here.
One of the "jobs" of a good counselor is to teach individuals in a family how
to have "good" arguements. To keep to the subject, to present viewpoints
without resorting to namecallings and bringing up the past. To understand the
strong feelings w/out projecting those feelings onto the other person, and to
not "know" the other person's emotions or thoughs. "I Know what you're
thinking" "You are just feeling guilty".
Owning our own arguements and not flaying out with hostility is the hard
part.
Stormy
who is constantly spelling arguement wrong, but my fingers are out of control
:-)
In a message dated 12/28/07 8:37:33 AM, pmick12@xxxxxxxxxxx writes:
> There is nothing wrong with arguing. If none of us ever argued, we'd all
> be
> imorons and no one would ever learn anything. After all, that is the
> basis of debate...presenting one's own argument for or against a theory or a
> statement...and then the other side gets to present their argument.
>
> Some people argue vehemently...some quit and walk away. There are
> levels in between, of course. Some try to explain a point of view without
> giving any reasons for holding that view, and sometimes, an argument or
> explanation is interpreted as fighting, especially by those who don't WANT
> to hear any side other than their own. They prefer to remain uninformed.
>
> Arguing is what attorneys do, as well as debaters. There's nothing
> wrong with a good argument...it can clear the air, explain
> misunderstandings, and expose weaknesses and even strengths.
>
> Resorting to namecalling and accusation is not arguing. Those tactics
> are the resources of the unarmed man (or woman)...unarmed meaning one
> without a leg to stand on in any discussion or argument. All too often, the
> people who complain that there is too much argument, or who demand that all
> arguing cease
> are the very reason (or whose behaviour is the reason) the argument is
> necessary. Most of the time, things aren't meant as personal attacks...and
> it is only when there is no acceptable retort to one's argument that it
> becomes personal...and that by the person who is without a response.
>
> Peggy.
>
"You may never know what results come from your action.
But if you do nothing, there will be no result."
Mahatma Gandhi
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