As a general rule, you are correct. However, I have several friends,
blind women, who are married to sighted men. I dated a blind woman in
college who went on to marry a sighted man. They are now retired and
live within 15 miles of Cathy and myself. But of the blind women I
know who are married to sighted men, most are pretty average looking.
One standout, however. An absolutely, model perfect young woman who
taught Russian at the U of W. We dated some, but her heart was set on
marrying a man who could provide sighted assistance. She has wound up
working for the federal government in Washington DC, and supporting
her sighted spouse. He is still "finding" himself.
Also, I am friends with several couples where the husband is at least
ten years younger than their wives.
If the figures are correct, Chompsky was 21 years older than his first
wife, Carol. I wonder if she was a student of his? Many romances
having such a wide age discrepancy do occur between young college
women and their "sexy, suave" professor. That was not the case with
Cathy and myself. To this day I marvel that such an intelligent, good
looking woman would agree to marry a man 17 years her senior, with
three children in tow. It was certainly not for lack of suitors.
And it was not a case of Cathy needing to "take care" of me. I have
had a number of students in the Orientation and Training Center, male
students, who actually did find sighted women whose mission in life
was to care for a big, helpless baby. I can't think of a single one
of those unions that lasted. But whatever the magic that drew this
most amazing woman into my life, is proof to me that there are more
factors involved in what causes people to be attracted to one another
than meets the eye.
Carl Jarvis
On 4/17/16, Miriam Vieni <miriamvieni@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
He's a bit older than I thought. I'd assumed that his first wife was around
his age. I wonder how old is second wife is. And now to the unfairness of
sex in all this. It is not unusual for older men to partner with younger
women while it is highly unusual for younger ment to partner with older
women. Of course, they sometimes do, but not usually. And quite often,
blind
men partner with sighted women, but much less frequently do sighted men
partner with blind women. When they do, the blind woman is often unusually
physically attractive.
Miriam
-----Original Message-----
From: blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Carl Jarvis
Sent: Sunday, April 17, 2016 1:17 PM
To: blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
Naom Chomsky was born in 1928. His first wife, Carol, was born in
1949 and died in 2008. Chomsky and his second wife Valeria Wasserman
Chomsky, are celebrating their first wedding anniversary. I listened to an
interview with Naom Chomsky on Democracy Now, some time back.
Those interested in that interview, along with a world of great interviews,
can go to, www.democracynow.org
Carl Jarvis
On 4/17/16, Miriam Vieni <miriamvieni@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
You know, Noam Chomsky recently married, perhaps it was last year?the tooth?
Anyway, I think he's 85 or 86 years old.
Miriam
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From: blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:blind-democracy-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Carl Jarvis
Sent: Sunday, April 17, 2016 11:14 AM
To: blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
I have no illusions as to my irresistible charm and appeal toward
those youthful, desirable young women in my life. At 81, I am at
best, seen as "sweet", or "Funny". I can't count the number of times
a young woman has said, "You're very good looking...for your age."
Now that's the kiss of death to any thoughts of having a mid life
fling. I wonder what a mid life fling is called when we guys are long in
A wishful flashback?youth.
But all of that is academic because I have a sure fire "fling controller"
named Cathy. I met Cathy ten years after becoming totally blind, and
a good five years prior to my second wife and my divorce.
During those five years of working together, I developed great respect
for the talent and wisdom that was a great part of Cathy. Sure, being
a human male type guy, I knew that she was attractive. She was being
sought after by all the eligible men in the Department, and several
who were not so eligible. But thinking of having an affair was
something that I found alien to my thinking. Not only was it a
violation of my wedding vows, it was disrespectful to both my wife and
to the desired person.
Still, it is interesting to look back on those days and see just how
quickly my feelings toward Cathy moved from liking her as a coworker,
to that of full blown love for a sexy, desirable woman.
Now, after 35 years together, I must say that it is a darn good thing
that we are in love with the entire Being that makes us who we are,
since neither of us would qualify as "desirable" by the demands of
today's
I recall reading that when he was at the end of his life, King David
had young maidens tucked into bed alongside him. I presume this was
done to rekindle the spark of life. But David died.
Too bad that he didn't have a long term love who could have sat beside
him, holding his hand as he left this world. Those old Bible stories
do cause me to think that we have not come so far in some of our basic
attitudes.
Carl Jarvis
On 4/16/16, joe harcz Comcast <joeharcz@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I understand.blond hair.
Let me tell you a little story here....
I've been legally blind for decades and am a standard unit horny old
fart, though less so than in my younger days for sure.
This said I went to Catholic school here in Michigan and one of the
prettiest girls (actually downright sexy and a wet dream) was a girl
who looked like the blond types of the sixties with long blond hair
and long legs and all that stuff that befuddles we straight sort of
guys from that era.
Now I admit that I had more than lust in my heart for this lady way
back then. Some would call it a "crush".. Bullshit.
We all know that is pure and utter bullshit guys and gals.
I wanted to do the "belly bump" with her so badly I cannot express it
in words.
Yes, I was and am still nowadays a sort of pig I guess.
Regardless, and keeping on topic, more than four decades later I met
this lady at a family event, a wedding. I hugged her and we talked
endlessly. I wasn't even flirting btw....
I knew she wasn't the same woman of forty years ago but in my mind
and I mean this really she was still the petite cheerleader at St.
Mary's that I held in my perverted mind's eye. She had that long and
straight
cheek...
She had those long and shapely legs. She had the finest ass in the
county, excuse my candor here. She was a little small on the breast
size, but I never was a "breast man". And folks she had the prettiest
face in our year book. And yes I noticed faces!!
My non-blind mother commented the way home how "old" this lady looked.
I said, "Jesus you sure know how to freak up a fantasy."
Bottom line is again I'm a sort of pig I guess, and I have these
fantasies of how people look like as if that really matters...Tongue
in
people.
Seriously, now and this is one of the Blessed events of blindness
here....
I don't give a rat's ass of how people look. I really don't anymore.
I've been in love with and find women sexy and all that whom I never
would have found so when sighted.
I'm abbreviating things here.
And for my friends who are gay or have other experiences on this list
please
note that I'm only talking about my personal perspective as a
straight male
who came to puberty in the sixties.
I do not at all diminish the aspirations or attractions of same sex
I'm just a sort of aging blind guy who is straight and who is just that.
Whenever I get together with my old classmates which is once per
month nowadays they all really look the same they did decades ago to me.
I prefer that notion. I prefer the notion that I look the same.
Please don't ruin the only good thing about going blind yawl.\\
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From: "Roger Loran Bailey (Redacted sender "rogerbailey81" for DMARC)"
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To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 3:08 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
You remind me of a conversation I had in a bar once. One of the
effects of
my blindness is that whenever I meet someone new the main subject of
conversation is my eyesight. It gets a bit tiresome. So because of
that I
was talking about the last time I saw a human being well enough to
see what they looked like. It was a nurse in a facility where I was
about to have eye surgery. Someone asked me if she was pretty. As a
matter of fact,
she was. She was quite attractive. Then a guy spouted off, "1988? I
bet she's not pretty now!" Now, let me remind all women who might be
reading this and getting a little age on them. I didn't say that! I
am only repeating what someone else said!
On 4/15/2016 2:27 PM, joe harcz Comcast wrote:
If it is any consolation we are all still young, beautiful,
handsome and
look just like the last time you saw us....Smile...
----- Original Message ----- From: "Roger Loran Bailey (Redacted
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To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 2:06 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Anniversary
Today is the twenty-eighth anniversary of the last time I saw a
human being well enough to tell what they looked like.
