Ultimately, even when I could see fairly well, it was not age that mattered
to me, but intensity--intensity of enjoyment in music, in conversation, in
shared adventures. A pleasant face, a pleasant voice, warm eyes that showed
the man could listen as well as talk... a sense of humor, all of these
mattered and still matter to me. I have been attracted to good looking men,
and I have found some annoying, and, even sometimes surprising myself, I
have been attracted to men who didn't fit my idea of good looking because of
the way they interacted with me. Beauty and charm are truly in the inner eye
of the beholder.
Best,
Sylvie
----- Original Message -----
From: "joe harcz Comcast" <joeharcz@xxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Saturday, April 16, 2016 6:43 AM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
I understand.
Let me tell you a little story here....
I've been legally blind for decades and am a standard unit horny old fart,
though less so than in my younger days for sure.
This said I went to Catholic school here in Michigan and one of the
prettiest girls (actually downright sexy and a wet dream) was a girl who
looked like the blond types of the sixties with long blond hair and long
legs and all that stuff that befuddles we straight sort of guys from that
era.
Now I admit that I had more than lust in my heart for this lady way back
then. Some would call it a "crush".. Bullshit.
We all know that is pure and utter bullshit guys and gals.
I wanted to do the "belly bump" with her so badly I cannot express it in
words.
Yes, I was and am still nowadays a sort of pig I guess.
Regardless, and keeping on topic, more than four decades later I met this
lady at a family event, a wedding. I hugged her and we talked endlessly. I
wasn't even flirting btw....
I knew she wasn't the same woman of forty years ago but in my mind and I
mean this really she was still the petite cheerleader at St. Mary's that I
held in my perverted mind's eye. She had that long and straight blond hair.
She had those long and shapely legs. She had the finest ass in the county,
excuse my candor here. She was a little small on the breast size, but I
never was a "breast man". And folks she had the prettiest face in our year
book. And yes I noticed faces!!
My non-blind mother commented the way home how "old" this lady looked.
I said, "Jesus you sure know how to freak up a fantasy."
Bottom line is again I'm a sort of pig I guess, and I have these fantasies
of how people look like as if that really matters...Tongue in cheek...
Seriously, now and this is one of the Blessed events of blindness here....
I don't give a rat's ass of how people look. I really don't anymore.
I've been in love with and find women sexy and all that whom I never would
have found so when sighted.
I'm abbreviating things here.
And for my friends who are gay or have other experiences on this list please
note that I'm only talking about my personal perspective as a straight male
who came to puberty in the sixties.
I do not at all diminish the aspirations or attractions of same sex people.
I'm just a sort of aging blind guy who is straight and who is just that.
Whenever I get together with my old classmates which is once per month
nowadays they all really look the same they did decades ago to me.
I prefer that notion. I prefer the notion that I look the same.
Please don't ruin the only good thing about going blind yawl.\\
----- Original Message -----
From: "Roger Loran Bailey (Redacted sender "rogerbailey81" for DMARC)"
<dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 3:08 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Re: Anniversary
You remind me of a conversation I had in a bar once. One of the effects of
my blindness is that whenever I meet someone new the main subject of
conversation is my eyesight. It gets a bit tiresome. So because of that I
was talking about the last time I saw a human being well enough to see
what they looked like. It was a nurse in a facility where I was about to
have eye surgery. Someone asked me if she was pretty. As a matter of fact,
she was. She was quite attractive. Then a guy spouted off, "1988? I bet
she's not pretty now!" Now, let me remind all women who might be reading
this and getting a little age on them. I didn't say that! I am only
repeating what someone else said!
On 4/15/2016 2:27 PM, joe harcz Comcast wrote:
If it is any consolation we are all still young, beautiful, handsome and
look just like the last time you saw us....Smile...
----- Original Message ----- From: "Roger Loran Bailey (Redacted sender
"rogerbailey81" for DMARC)" <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <blind-democracy@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, April 15, 2016 2:06 PM
Subject: [blind-democracy] Anniversary
Today is the twenty-eighth anniversary of the last time I saw a human
being well enough to tell what they looked like.
