Hey Elizabeth, I have learned that I don't let others direct how I lead my life. I try to listen to what others say, but I set my own goals and work toward what I want, (my reality). This dog world is really like our personal lives. You pay dues, you stay true to your dreams and aspirations and make it work for you. Make sure you keep people in your life that have similar goals and aspirations. And in the dog world it can change on a dime. There is pettiness and jealously but it is like that all over. The key is to center yourself where you feel comfortable and fit in. Make your own place and join with others that have the same goals etc. It can be done and if it doesn't work out, move on but don't quit. You really have to like a good challenge. We like to beat the odds here at Keggi Fair. Sometimes we win and sometimes we don't. The dog game is expensive because even our time is money. If it was easy we would probably have a lot more issues than we do. I really believe that things will get better but everyone has to help and offer suggestions not criticism. Our club will be as good as our weakest link so we all have a purpose in this dog game. I would suggest that you contact our new President, Frank Fasano or a director close to your home. In my area I call Gary Szymczak when I want to understand something that is put on the LIST or posted somewhere. He is a great guy and has always been available to consult with about the dog club and other dog related stuff. Remember that these folks are human too and they want to be respected and validated as we do too. Introduce yourself to them and form a relationship with the board members. I find most of them really neat people who love this breed with all their hearts. Dog showing is competitive and you have to have thick skin to last ... that is my experience. I actually think it is more fair than what people say because we always have a choice where we enter our dogs and under what judges. Some judges are not worth exhibiting too so we don't. We have learned to watch the whole show and are appreciative of a beautiful moving and good tempered dog, even if we don't own it. Form relationships with others and introduce yourself to others at dogs shows. There are a lot of good people out there that have the same ideas and aspirations you have. Never give up! Terra Fairburn Keggi Fair ============================================================================ POST is Copyrighted 2011. All material remains the property of the original author and of GSD Communication, Inc. NO REPRODUCTIONS or FORWARDS of any kind are permitted without prior permission of the original author AND of the Showgsd-l Management. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Each Author is responsible for the content of his/her post. This group and its administrators are not responsible for the comments or opinions expressed in any post. ALL PERSONS ARE ON NOTICE THAT THE FORWARDING, REPRODUCTION OR USE IN ANY MANNER OF ANY MATERIAL WHICH APPEARS ON SHOWGSD-L WITHOUT THE EXPRESS PERMISSION OF ALL PARTIES TO THE POST AND THE LIST MANAGEMENT IS EXPRESSLY FORBIDDEN, AND IS A VIOLATION OF LAW. VIOLATORS OF THIS PROHIBITION WILL BE PROSECUTED. For assistance, please contact the List Management at admin@xxxxxxxxxxx VISIT OUR WEBSITE - http://showgsd.org SUBSCRIPTION:http://showgsd.org/mail.html NATIONAL BLOG - http://gsdnational.blogspot.com/ ============================================================================