[MILRETVET-INFO] Tabby Cat Makes Life Easier for Dying Veterans
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Tabby Cat Makes Life Easier for Dying Veterans
Tom takes a moment to relax and reflect before continuing his rounds at the
Salem VA's hospice unit. Photo by Marian McConnell, Salem VA
By Tom Cramer, VA Staff Writer
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Surrounded by his family, World War II Veteran Edwin Gehlert lay quietly dying
in a VA hospice unit in Salem, Virginia. He took a few final, shallow breaths.
At that moment, an orange tabby cat named Tom jumped onto his bed, curled up
beside him and placed a furry orange paw in the Army Veteran's open hand.
"That cat took him right to heaven," said Elizabeth Gehlert, the Veteran's wife
of 68 years. "It was a beautiful passing and that cat is the one who made it
happen."
The Veteran's daughter, Pamela Thompson, described the orange tabby as her
lifeline on that difficult day.
"I kept telling daddy to let go, to go towards the light," she said. "When Tom
put his paw in daddy's hand, it was like God was telling me he had ahold of my
dad and that everything was OK. That's how I felt. I felt a peace come over
me."
A Little Person
Laura Hart, a physician assistant who works on the hospice unit at the Salem VA
Medical Center, said Tom seems to have a sixth sense (in addition to his nine
lives) when it comes to being in the right place at the right time.
"Tom has known what to do since the first day he was here," she said. "I think
there's a little person inside him."
Hart said family members visiting a dying Veteran do a lot of watching and
waiting, so it can be a welcome diversion when a cat wanders in to visit or
simply take a snooze.
"Having a cat in the room will take your mind off what's going on," she said.
"He'll do something silly - he'll jump in the air or something and everyone will
laugh. It breaks the tension."
Tom's furry, comforting presence is also a big help to family members who need
to return home after visiting with a loved one all day. "When they leave for the
day and the cat's still on the Veteran's bed, it gives them some comfort," Hart
explained. "They don't feel so bad about leaving. They're sort of like, 'OK,
Tom's here. It's OK if I leave now.' It makes them feel better."
No Cat Zone
Hart said Tom will sometimes spend hours with a dying Veteran, but then
disappears for a time after the Veteran has finally passed. "Afterwards he kind
of goes into hibernation for hours," she said. "He finds some corner and goes to
sleep. I guess he's just recharging."
Not everyone on the hospice unit is a cat lover, however.
"We've had a few patients who've said, 'I don't want that cat in my room,'" Hart
observed. "When that happens, we put a sign outside their door that says, 'No
Cat Zone.' But of course, that's the room Tom wants to go into all the time.
He's like, 'I need to be in there. I'll change their mind.'"
There's no doubt Tom regards the entire hospice unit as his personal domain.
"He's interested in everything that goes on here," Hart said. "He even comes to
our team meetings, which we have twice a week. Sometimes the door to the meeting
room will be shut, and we'll hear Tom scratching at the door. He'll scratch
until we let him in."
No Cuddling, Please
Dorothy Rizzo, palliative care coordinator on the hospice unit, described the
orange tabby as a much-needed normalizing factor in an otherwise somber
environment.
"There's something about the presence of an animal that has a calming effect,"
she said. "Watching the cat or petting him takes you out of the sad moment
you're in. Animals, like babies, are life-affirming in a way.
"It's not that Tom's an especially cuddly cat," she added. "He's not into
cuddling, but he'll curl up right beside you."
And Tom holds no grudges against staff or family members who are simply not
'cat' people. He'll never fail to use his special talents to assist you in your
time of need, even if you don't like him all that much.
"We had a Veteran here whose daughter did not like cats," Rizzo said, "so when
Tom came into the room she'd ignore him or shoo him away. One night she was here
with her dad and stepped out of his room for a few minutes to take a break. Tom
went out there after her, wrapped himself around her legs and meowed at her.
That made her think she should maybe go back to her dad's room and check on him,
which she did just in time. Her father
died moments later."
That Helpless Feeling
Betty Gillespie, a psychologist who works on the hospice unit, said family
members seem to need Tom more than the Veterans who are dying.
"A lot of these Veterans are very stoic," she observed. "These are men who
fought in WW II, Korea and Vietnam. It almost seems like the family members need
more emotional support than the patients themselves.
"Families often feel helpless," she continued. "You're watching your loved one
die and you know you can't save them. Sometimes you can't even talk to them, or
wake them up. All you can do is watch and wait. But Tom provides you with some
comfort; he's something for you to focus on. Because when a tabby cat casually
walks into the room, it sends a message that everything is OK, everything is as
it should be."
"Tom's like a good piece of music," she added. "He instantly connects with
everyone in the room."
The Good Cat
Does the psychologist feel, as others do, that Tom possesses an almost
supernatural gift of knowing which patient on the hospice unit is about to die?
"He's just a cat," she said. "I don't think he has ESP or anything. He's just a
good cat."
Air Force Veteran Skip Wyman, who has been on the hospice unit for several
weeks, eagerly looks forward to his daily visit from the good cat.
"He was in my room yesterday for about two hours," he beamed. "Then he walked
out. I don't know where he went. I haven't seen him this morning yet. He's
around here somewhere."
Wyman said Tom reminds him of a feline buddy he once hung around with.
"I call him Knothead because he reminds me of a cat I had when I was a younger
man," said the 79-year-old. "He's the perfect picture of Knothead. They look
just alike. And Knothead would sleep on my bed with me, just like Tom."
One evening, after spending some time sleeping on Wyman's bed, the orange tabby
abruptly jumped to the floor and headed for the door. Tom clearly had business
to attend to elsewhere on the unit.
Wyman called after him. "I said, 'Tom, are you going to bed?' And he just kept
walking out the door. So then I said, 'Knothead, are you going to bed?' And
darned if that cat didn't stop and just look at me."
Was Wyman perhaps conversing with his old friend Knothead? Did the cat turn
around, jump back onto Wyman's bed and spend the night with him, just like in
the old days?
"Oh no," Wyman laughed. "After a second or two he just kept walking out the
door." "He hasn't been here to see me today yet," he added. "I'm going to get
the nurse to go look for him."
SOURCE: VA News Release at
http://www.va.gov/HEALTH/NewsFeatures/2014/November/Tabby-Cat-Makes-Life-Easier-
for-Dying-Veterans.asp
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