Hi Vanessa goodness you have had it bad too we never know what we all have to go through unless groups like this are made for us all to open up great I would have had a sister two eyars oler then me she was called Marjorie she died in cot through cot death she was 18th months old mum told me i had a brother inside her too called John he would of been just one year younger then our julie wow she name her baby John but he died after birth amazing My god would of been 8 children then wow Vanessa our mums have been through bad times in the 50's war and so on after the war i mean poor times hard times but happy times mum always told me that in them days you could leave your front and back doors open for a whole day and nothing would get pinched wow respect in them days was wonderful every single day when we were little kiddies mum would get the milkman shout good morning mrs o'connor the postman too and the dustbin men as they carried bags of coal on there back in tehm days wow my god bet they had back aches in them days Outside everybody said hello or good morning or good by As kids we had to say thank you otherwised go with out respect was great Vanessa its not all that long ago really you have been blind but my god you must find it hard at times I get embarrassed because in stores i am looking straight at a display board and talking to it hahahehehehehehe oh my god can laugh at it now but thinking my carer is there my carer shouts hey carol what are you doing I am over here oh my god Lost for words right take care Love Carol x.x.x.x. -----Original Message----- From: vanessa pugh - Email Address: shannon17@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Sent On: 24/07/2011 22:21 Sent To: guide chat - Email Address: guide.chat@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [guide.chat] Be posotive Carol, what a difficult time with the health in your family, I was lucky as didn't lose my sight until the age of 41, had just become a grandma for the first time, my husband didn't want a blind wife so we divorced, that hurt of course but there was no point in trying to make him stay as I had to learn to adjust with or without him, was hard and scary but I survived with the help of my teenaged kids, told them that although help was welcome didn't want them to babysit me and to get on with their own lives, couldn't stop them growing up and having fun and so all did exams, got jobs and left home, soom after had a chance to go away on a residential course, scary or what, but went for the training and change of scene as it was in one of my favourite parts of the world, thought it was good to go away with some one else paying, there I met a nice young toy boy and we have been married for 8 years, happy and posotive story , so be patient girls, it can happen so keep going out and you may find your prince charming in the most unusual places, keep smiling and looking fantastic, it may just work for you, happy thoughts, Vanessa xx