Hi Maria and All,
Thanks Maria for sharing your thoughts and your vulnerability; that's so
great that we have this forum to share.
I agree with few other voices that it is very important to acknowledge
grief, and let the process of grief to find its way like water does.
That for me is the primary thing to take care in our inner dealing with our
patient/client/participant death.
When I was reading the thread, I thought with respect how complex matter is
suicide, how important is to not let it to be measured as a symptom or a
comparable "such and such act"; to be seen more as a complex mystery we
could (or not) have some insight into. "Suicide" is one word but people
coming to this act are very different, and their motives, circumstances are
very unique as well.
I agree with others that suicide and depression (and many other issues)
could be systemic or not. Maybe we know it but it's good to remind
ourselves about it time to time; that would serve well our efforts in
constellation process.
Speaking about the constellation process - where it begins and where it
ends? We need to focus on what we know about the process but it's good also
to remember that we don't know a lot about the process.
And I think is very important to never stop reflecting on our professional
and human responsibility. Again, one word "responsibility" but so many
meanings.
Responsibility is so embedded in our relationships, I can't imagine our
functioning in nets of relationships without responsibility.
When I was reading your reflections I thought - well, there are such things
like not enough responsibility, and too much responsibility.
There is a humble responsibility, and there is an arrogant responsibility.
Where is the balance? How to see it? How to recognise what is not too big?
My response is - in ongoing self-inquiry, in reflecting on a particular
event with a beginners' mind.
Sometimes also - in not-knowing all definitions. Definitions and ethical
"right-wrong" are servants, tools, but not governors of our consciousness.
Rumi comes into my mind with his phenomenological statement - "beyond wrong
and right there is a field...I'll meet you there"
Thank you all for inspiring me to reflect on my humility and arrogance in
taking responsibility.
With Love
*The world, I’ve come to think, is like the surface of a frozen lake. We
walk along, we slip, we try to keep our balance and not to fall. One day,
there’s a crack, and so we learn that underneath us — is an unimaginable
depth. *James Joyce
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