PS. There is also the difference between behaviors which actually exclude one,
and the feeling of being excluded - the land where sociology and psychology
overlap. I cannot find the quote, but someone said something like "we cannot be
excluded because we always have our place." Yes, in a family, we belong, we
have our rightful place and even if sent away, our place in the family remains
- it just may be filled with someone from a subsequent generation who leaves
their own place open to go back and fill the one we left - they are entangled
with us to fix an actual or perceived issue in the family. But what if I only
FEEL excluded - I still have my place, but I do not feel that I am rightfully
in it. Is that my feeling or am I entangled in the past? These issues are very
interesting to me - sorting out one's actual life with it's consequences from
our own choices, and dealing with consequences from "choices" that never
actually were "our own". In doing individual work, I have found that this
cannot always be sussed out, and that 2 things have a good effect - my
understanding that history generally repeats itself, and the client agreeing to
the life given by the parents.
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On Jan 24, 2014, at 12:11, "sheila saunders" <peacefulcentre@xxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Thanks for this Anngwyn - always great to hear your perspective; and yes, the
response to exclusion has an equally influential sequelae - this is a good
point. thanks, sheila
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On Jan 23, 2014, at 19:03, anngwyn@xxxxxxx wrote:
Hello Everyone !
Exclusion has a very long ,well documented ,history as a powerful means of
social control and as such is integral to our understanding of the human
condition. In times where human groups were interdependent for survival,
in any manner of harsh conditions, exclusion could mean death. Given what we
know about behavioral epigenetics,ancestors who experienced exclusion as
life threatening may have passed some of that imprint on down to their
descendants. Exclusion has also led to many instances of discrimination,
outright persecution and genocide. Exile and deportations, are forms of
exclusion as punishment, as well as , shunning, and solitary confinement in
penitential settings
Most of us will likely have experienced and/or participated in exclusion on
the basis of gender, race,class, financial status,language, nationality,
sexual preference, choice of partner, infertility, physical appearance or
disability, disease, religion , profession,political belief or affiliation,
educational level, and so on...
The question of victim consciousness is also important here...while some may
be devastated , self-destruct or even die as a result of exclusion, others
may benefit by seeking new options, immigrating, changing jobs, partners ,
professions,and other major life changes...
Warm Regards,
Anngwyn St. Just Ph.D.
http://anngwyn.wisrville.org
www.acst-international.com
