" If a representative begins to feel too much of their own unresolved
energies,"
Dear Chuck and All,
Thank you for being open to discuss this significant aspect of the
'classic" constellation approach. You are highlighting the very challenge
that besets many constellations.
"I've had representatives be so overwhelmed by their own family memories
that they could not report on the state of the person they were
representing, but spoke about their own mother, for example. At this point
I have no hesitation to respectfully replace them with another participant."
You see at that point the representative whose energies has been triggered
is essentially dismissed. The constellation does not turn its focus where
the energy is manifesting but follows a somewhat rigid, predetermined,
doctrinal course.
This rigidity bothers me. We may say that we respectfully replace the
representative, but is this truly respectful? More importantly is this
really helpful to the field? At this point are we not treating the
representative as a second class participant, reinforcing some old
paradigm? Are we not second guessing the outcome and disallowing the field
to unfold?
Best wishes to all,
Robert
On Tue, Jan 28, 2014 at 10:15 PM, Chuck Cogliandro <chuck@xxxxxxxxxxx>wrote:
I have great respect for this group and really appreciate the
opportunity to share ideas and perspectives. When we give representatives
guidance we tell them some simple things: that's there's nothing for them
to do or think about, but be open, relax and breathe; that they may feel
nothing, which is fine; and we lead them in some silent statements to
themselves that they are not [their name], that they are [the person they
are representing], and that they are in service to the healing of the
client and the client's family. As facilitators we hold that as
the highest intention for the constellation- that everyone is serving the
client and the healing of that particular family system.
If a representative begins to feel too much of their own unresolved
energies, they will be less available to be open to the sensations,
impressions and most importantly the energies of the family member. It
takes a real practice of multi-dimensional awareness to hold the energies
of who you're representing, not lose your self in the representation, and
remember that you're serving the needs of the client and the process of the
constellation. I've had representatives be so overwhelmed by their own
family memories that they could not report on the state of the person they
were representing, but spoke about their own mother, for example. At this
point I have no hesitation to respectfully replace them with
another participant.
Chuck Cogliandro
Family Constellations Facilitator
Brennan Healing Science Practitioner
Kumandi Drums & Healing
404-577-6842 voice mail
www.kumandi.com
