Thank you Christine for your most thoughtful and detailed note. It was of
much value to me.
Further to my initial query which I expect to follow up on when I next see,
in about a month, one or both of the two siblings who experience this
condition I was present during a constellation at a clinic where I do pro
bono work once per week. A colleague was directing this particular piece of
work and I was supporting him. The client sought relief from feeling
overwhelmed principally as she has a child who has cerebral palsy from birth
and who naturally requires much attention. After the set up of a
representative for herself, one for the condition of overwhelm and one for
the suppressed anger, the field informed us that the issue was derived from
her father's side. My colleague introduced a representative for the client's
father who soon began to shake. When the client was questioned it was
revealed that she in fact has had several epileptic seizures; but to the
best of her knoweldge her father had never had a seizure. Remembering what
had been shared in this thread concerning repressed violence I whispered
this to my colleague and he asked the client where her father's family came
from. They came from the region of Cajamarca ( Cajamarca is the sight of
where the Spanish required the then reigning Inca to fill two rooms one with
gold and one with silver in order to spare the Inca´s life. The
Conquistadores took the spoils and killed the Inca and thus the Spanish
conquest of the Inca empire) which is known to historically be a area of
much violence. The facilitator then went back six generations ( spaced
precluded going further) and then placed a person to represent the dead from
this unspecified violence. The temperature in the room seemed to drop
precipitously until such time as the victims and perpetrators where
acknowledged to be part of the system and taken in the hearts of each
generation until the present. Once this process was complete the atmosphere
in the Field was palpably different and my colleague was able to continue
and complete the work to assist the client in finding greater peace and
strength within.
I conversed with the client's sister-in-law, a psychiatrist and good friend,
the next afternoon and she remarked that the client felt immeasurable relief
following the experience.
I thought it of value to share this experience with the group as it attests
to the immense value and benefit of being able to share our diverse
experiences for the benefit and greater good of the people we each touch.
Once again I want to thank you Chris for hosting this group and to each of
you who so thoughtfully contribute. I learn and grow from virtually each
post.
Fondly,
Stephen
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MA, R.Sc.P., MPNLP (Health), ND (Candidate)
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familyconstellationinfo@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear Christine,
Thankyou for sharing your insights and experiences re this issue. I am
moved by the strength of living and loving your understanding offers for all
who are involved in their "living constellations."
Lots of love to you
Sadhana
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Re: epilepsy
From Christine Wilson, Hertfordshire, UK
Re: Epilepsy
I am very interested in this discussion because my late husband became
severely epileptic following viral encephalitis which he suffered at the age
of 35. Forgive me if this is quite lengthy but it may be relevant. This is
an account of the progression of the illness - We first thought he had flu,
which improved for a while then he suffered a dreadful rash on his back & it
turned out he had shingles. This would have been enough, but he started very
very suddenly to have temporal lobe seizures beginning early one morning
while he was asleep. He had concurrently managed his Type 1 Insulin
dependent diabetes for many years until this time, which was no problem to
him although the routine of the daily injections was much more complicated
than it is today. When he had the seizure which was over in a comparatively
short while, although it left me very shocked, both the doctor and I assumed
it was something to do with the long-standing diabetes. Unfortunately
it was not. He had not been told not to drive his car, and his second
seizure occured at the wheel of his car on a motorway which did not have a
central safety barrier. It was a shocking accident, since we collided head
on with another car coming towards us and the driver was killed instantly
but his son at the back of the car and his little dog were both unhurt. Our
car bounced into a field and we were dragged along on its side, then stopped
finally. My husband was bleeding from his head, spurting all over the roof
of the car and he was having a second seizure which I still did not
understand. We were all taken to hospital and my husband was kept in for
investigation; my little baby son and I were allowed home, unhurt, except
for my bruising where the seat belt had held me during the accident. My
husband nearly died that night because he went into "status epilepticus" and
I was called into the hospital early next morning because the staff thought
he
would die any moment.
It may be relevant to tell you that from the moment I and the baby son sat
next to him (by this time almost unconscious, lying in a "cot" bed with the
sides up so that he could not fall out) he never had another seizure all
that day until the consultant came round, diagnosed "some form of epilepsy"
and he was put onto medication. He was kept in hospital for 3 weeks to
stabilise, and then transported to a neurological hospital for further
diagnosis. He still had the terrible rash on his back, which only then was
diagnosed as shingles which "had probably travelled up his spine and caused
encephalitis" but the lumbar puncture was performed too late by then to make
a positive diagnosis. There was no history of epilepsy in his family or
anything similar.
He was able to go back to work but I was warned that his personality might
change, and he was never free from seizures although he stayed on
medication. The two conditions of Type 1 diabetes and epilepsy were
difficult to manage because once he was on medication the seizures were not
so severe, although not absent, and sometimes it was difficult to tell
whether he was having hypoglycaemia or a seizure. For hypoglycaemia of
course we had to supply sugar or sucrose, but for epilepsy naturally the
worst thing you could do was to try to give anything orally.
He carried on bravely working as an accountant all his life and used to
cycle sometimes up to 22 miles to work and back in all weathers. I have to
say that yes, he was very angry then at the crippling effects on his work
and life generally of having to cope with the seizures; he had always
managed the diabetes well and it never seemed to be a problem. It was a
problem if he mentioned it to employers, and if he tried to hide it the
truth often came out because a lot of job applications ask you if you have a
driving licence. At interviews he was usually asked why he didn't have a
driving licence, so the truth had to come out. At the age of 49, not quite
50, he had 3 quite severe seizures over one weekend but was not kept in
hospital, and the following Tuesday morning he had a haemorrhagic stroke. He
was hospitalised and managed to get over the first 4-5 days, but it was
obvious that over the following 2 weeks he was not going to improve much,
and he
eventually went into a coma and died.
The systemic effect was - you might call interesting - but sad. We had a
family of 6 children before my husband ever became ill. The eldest, Andrew,
as a little boy used to watch his Daddy do his injections in the bathroom
each morning, and at the time he automatically drew the conclusion that this
is what men had to do each morning - ie shave and then inject themselves.
When he was about 18 years old he did eventually become insulin-dependent
diabetic although one consultant told me that Type 1 diabetes was not
necessarily inherited. The rest of the family have never had a problem. The
diabetes struck just after his beloved Grandmother died, and Andrew himself
connected it with the shock. He of all the children had been very close to
her. Andrew again managed his diabetes without any fuss at all and carried
on with his life. Then not long before his father died, Andrew also
developed "some form of epilepsy" at the age of 21. It was investigated very
thoroughly but the consultant could find absolutely no reason at all. In
both cases, father and son, it was stated to be not connected with the
diabetes. Andrew was also given medication but never became very stable at
all, and his seizures were always temporal lobe, ie falling, rigidity,
stopping breathing, then violent shaking of arms and legs, biting his tongue
and frothing, often doubly incontinent, finally coming to rest and being
unconscious for a while. It was heartbreaking. His seizures only appeared to
happen as he woke from sleep, whether that be during early morning or
perhaps after an afternoon sleep sometimes. He was always a poor sleeper and
spent a lot of the night awake, falling asleep nearer dawn. He was very
angry and ashamed at how the epilepsy affected him and he tried very hard
always to work, and often volunteered for shift work in a supermarket. He
bitterly regretted that he felt he could never ask any girl to marry him and
have
his own family.
When I met constellations workshops I worked through much of my own history
as well as looking at Andrew's illness. The constellation clearly showed
that he was "following his father". Any apparent cause for Andrew's epilepsy
was never discovered. He was dreadfully ashamed of the epilepsy. Arriving at
work after suffering a violent seizure over a weekend, and sporting a black
eye and cuts on his forehead, a work-colleague assumed he had been in a
fight over the weekend. This would have been the last thing ever to occur to
Andrew, however - and this is important - he would rather people believed he
had been in a fight than that he had had a seizure.
I was at a recent workshop in London where Bert Hellinger talked about
"murderous rage" and the epileptic having great power, taking strong control
of the family. In a way, taking control of the family is correct, but I
think not in the way that Bert meant it. The illness does become central and
is impossible to ignore, but in my experience both my son and his father
would have given anything not to have to suffer epilepsy.
Andrew also drank and smoked a bit and on the whole led quite a lonely life
at home, with the rest of the family all getting on with their lives in
various other ways. He always tried to stay in work if he could, but again
the epilepsy was the cause of him sometimes having to take time off, and it
seemed that his diabetes became more unstable, although this seemed to be to
be connected with the change from pork insulin to human insulin, which
apparently could be the case. One way and another it was quite difficult to
stay in work.
His seizures continued to be violent and he would damage the retina of his
eye repeatedly, and end up with cuts and severe bruising. When his eye was
damaged he would have to stay in a darkened room for 3 days while the eye
wept and could not stand light, and he only complained occasionally; he
soldiered on like a Trojan!!
He didn't want to die - although he did become depressed at times, he
enjoyed family life and loved the nephews and nieces as they came along. He
also loved animals and usually had pets to care for. He had a sense of
humour very like his father which was clever and "sparky"!!! He could laugh
at the smallest things that amused him and was a great mimic. He did enjoy
life and had many hobbies and subjects of interest that he studied from
home, the most interesting being rivers, reservoirs, waterfalls, reservoirs
supplying water to each area of the UK, and all kinds of details about the
water. Best of all he loved natural reservoirs, rather than any other kind.
When given the opportunity he would visit a waterfall and practically sit
underneath it, sniffing the pure atmosphere (healing negative ions). Andrew
didn't want to die, but very suddenly when he was not quite 43 he died alone
in his bedroom. He did not live alone but 2 other brothers who shared the
house happened to be out that Friday evening. From the marks and cut on his
face which were going to turn into the characteristic bruising, he had
obviously had a seizure and possibly followed by a heart attack. He was
discovered on the floor by his next older brother. Fortunately we did not
need to have an autopsy because his GP was happy to sign his death
certificate. His funeral was held in the same Church as his Father's had
been, almost 20 years to the date after his father, both January - 1986 and
2006. Their ashes are together in the same Garden of Remembrance.
I worked the constellation following his death, which was incredibly
helpful and healing for me. He turned round from me and walked without
hesitation towards the ancestors behind him - a group of people placed
behind him to begin with. One man immediately stepped forward with open arms
and the biggest smile you could ever see - his Father - and Andrew went
straight into his arms. All the other ancestors who had gone before appeared
to rejoice to see him again. I have kept that picture in my heart always. I
have another personal belief, though, about Andrew's illnesses. Not only was
he following his Father - it was as if he was saying to his younger siblings
- five of them - "I will take on the illnesses so that you don't have to".
Forgive me for the length of the story,
Warm wishes to all
Christine Wilson
Hemel Hempstead, Herts UK
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1a. Re: epilepsy From: Stephen Campbell
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1c. Re: epilepsy From: Gary Stuart
1d. Re: epilepsy From: Stephen Campbell
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1a. Re: epilepsy
Posted by: "Stephen Campbell" coachuno@gmail. com elcoachuno
Sun Jul 19, 2009 7:34 am (PDT)
Thank you Anngwyn...I will chase down the Ayacucho diagnosis as this
would/could have generalized throughout the region affected by the internal
war.
Happy travels!!
Stephen
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and
Greetings from Ecuador,
In my experience, epilepsy has to do with murderous rage....with seizures
providing a discharge of this intense energy. One often finds epilepsy
migraines in the same family system. In observing a grand mal seizure it
often looks like a very intense tantrum.
Bert has reportedly suggested that children with epilepsy be allowed to
say," I am so angry I could kill ".
In Peru I was told that many cases of epilepsy were diagnosed after the
terrorist attacks on the city of Ayacuocho.
Warm Regards
Anngwyn
www.acst-internatio nal.com
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1b. Re: epilepsy
Posted by: "Stephen Campbell" coachuno@gmail. com elcoachuno
Sun Jul 19, 2009 7:45 am (PDT)
Thank you Gary. I very much appreciate your take on the dis-ease or
condition. From my experience of working with cancer patients once they
were/are able to love their cancer and not fight it they turn the corner
and
begin their path to healing. Even when the condition is advanced and as
pilots say, "past the point of no return" their passing is calmer and not
fraught with anguish and pain that might be customary in that condition.
And, if the corner is turned in time, their recovery and healing is an
apparent miracle and the resultant re-mission is life changing.
Your observation that as facilitators we must take care to not through it
ALL into the the same bag ( my words not yours) is so very important as it
occurs to me that generalizations are most perilous for all concerned--the
client and the facilitator alike.
Fondly,
Stephen
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epilepsy a Resolution NOT to Kill.... The short circuit in the brainallows
the impulse to express itself without a murderous outcome hence the40yahoogroups. com>
perpetrator energy is short circuited into replicating the past offense
while honoring the killer and victim within the same body?
Food for Systemic thought....In allot of the recent posts on various
subjects.. I'd like to interject that the symptom is and can be the
solution...Our job is to decipher it to either Stop the negative harmful
way
or love it as it is and make some sense of it....
Be very careful of making "RULES of TREATMENT' or "One Size Fits All
assumptions" as Consciousness knows NO boundaries.. .. A warm Namaste to
All,
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Greetings from Ecuador,
In my experience, epilepsy has to do with murderous rage....with seizures
providing a discharge of this intense energy. One often finds epilepsy
migraines in the same family system. In observing a grand mal seizure it
often looks like a very intense tantrum.
Bert has reportedly suggested that children with epilepsy be allowed to
say," I am so angry I could kill ".
In Peru I was told that many cases of epilepsy were diagnosed after the
terrorist attacks on the city of Ayacuocho.
Warm Regards
Anngwyn
www.acst-internatio nal.com
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1c. Re: epilepsy
Posted by: "Gary Stuart" Gary@CHIfield. com garystuart
Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:34 am (PDT)
Thanks Stephan, I totally agree...in my training with Bert at Pichl I,II &
III he was emphatic about NOT fighting death. We are all alive but NOT
bigger than life or death as we are at the affect of each. He has found
this
acceptance and respect for death allow more life and health to flourish
hence remission etc...
Deitrich Klinghart has found as he presented in his lecture at the 1st
American conference in Portland that those who work-out their Parent issues
around a disease more than likely survive and those who reject and fight
the
"cancer to beat it do no...hence we received life form our parents and
taking it the way it was given provides strength against ALL challenges but
treating a disease as an enemy weakens us to the point of a sooner
death...much to ponder for us all....
Thanks GARY STUART LA, CA Gary@Chifield. com
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Sent: Sunday, July 19, 2009 7:44 AM
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Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] epilepsy
Thank you Gary. I very much appreciate your take on the dis-ease or
condition. From my experience of working with cancer patients once they
were/are able to love their cancer and not fight it they turn the corner
and
begin their path to healing. Even when the condition is advanced and as
pilots say, "past the point of no return" their passing is calmer and not
fraught with anguish and pain that might be customary in that condition.
And, if the corner is turned in time, their recovery and healing is an
apparent miracle and the resultant re-mission is life changing.
Your observation that as facilitators we must take care to not through it
ALL into the the same bag ( my words not yours) is so very important as it
occurs to me that generalizations are most perilous for all concerned--the
client and the facilitator alike.
Fondly,
Stephen
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<mailto:Gary% ;<Gary%25> 40chifield. com> > wrote:
like
A very good thread.....Another angle to think about...Is a "Dis-ease'
epilepsy a Resolution NOT to Kill.... The short circuit in the brainallows
the impulse to express itself without a murderous outcome hence the<Gary%40Chifield. com> &
perpetrator energy is short circuited into replicating the past offense
while honoring the killer and victim within the same body?
Food for Systemic thought....In allot of the recent posts on various
subjects.. I'd like to interject that the symptom is and can be the
solution...Our job is to decipher it to either Stop the negative harmful
way
or love it as it is and make some sense of it....
Be very careful of making "RULES of TREATMENT' or "One Size Fits All
assumptions" as Consciousness knows NO boundaries.. .. A warm Namaste to
All,
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Greetings from Ecuador,
In my experience, epilepsy has to do with murderous rage....with seizures
providing a discharge of this intense energy. One often finds epilepsy
migraines in the same family system. In observing a grand mal seizure it
often looks like a very intense tantrum.
Bert has reportedly suggested that children with epilepsy be allowed to
say," I am so angry I could kill ".
In Peru I was told that many cases of epilepsy were diagnosed after the
terrorist attacks on the city of Ayacuocho.
Warm Regards
Anngwyn
www.acst-internatio nal.com
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Posted by: "Stephen Campbell" coachuno@gmail. com elcoachuno
Sun Jul 19, 2009 12:25 pm (PDT)
Thanks again Gary. Acceptance, dignity and respect are words that are many
times bantered about but when truly felt at the core of the being are so
tremendously powerful that I am not surprised and can completely align with
Bert's comments regarding the acceptance and respect for death and the
consequence thereof.
Echo on Deitrich's wise words as well. At least in my journey for this
experience we call life I have in these more mature stages found that
acceptance of what is liberates me in a way I never thought possible. The
question I have asked myself many times is how come it takes life's
experiences, the ups, downs and roundabouts to finally arrive at this
understanding. Are there those who learn it early in life? I certainly have
a desire to share it with my children and grandchildren and anyone else who
might be interested.
Fondly,
Stephen
On Sun, Jul 19, 2009 at 12:34, Gary Stuart <Gary@chifield. com> wrote:
&
Thanks Stephan, I totally agree...in my training with Bert at Pichl I,II
III he was emphatic about NOT fighting death. We are all alive but NOTissues
bigger than life or death as we are at the affect of each. He has found
this
acceptance and respect for death allow more life and health to flourish
hence remission etc...
Deitrich Klinghart has found as he presented in his lecture at the 1st
American conference in Portland that those who work-out their Parent
around a disease more than likely survive and those who reject and fightbut
the
"cancer to beat it do no...hence we received life form our parents and
taking it the way it was given provides strength against ALL challenges
treating a disease as an enemy weakens us to the point of a sooner40yahoogroups. com>
death...much to ponder for us all....
Thanks GARY STUART LA, CA Gary@Chifield. com <Gary%40Chifield. com>
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Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] epilepsyit
Thank you Gary. I very much appreciate your take on the dis-ease or
condition. From my experience of working with cancer patients once they
were/are able to love their cancer and not fight it they turn the corner
and
begin their path to healing. Even when the condition is advanced and as
pilots say, "past the point of no return" their passing is calmer and not
fraught with anguish and pain that might be customary in that condition.
And, if the corner is turned in time, their recovery and healing is an
apparent miracle and the resultant re-mission is life changing.
Your observation that as facilitators we must take care to not through it
ALL into the the same bag ( my words not yours) is so very important as
occurs to me that generalizations are most perilous for allconcerned--the
client and the facilitator alike.wrote:
Fondly,
Stephen
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A very good thread.....Another angle to think about...Is a "Dis-ease'
epilepsy a Resolution NOT to Kill.... The short circuit in the brainallows
the impulse to express itself without a murderous outcome hence the
perpetrator energy is short circuited into replicating the past offense
while honoring the killer and victim within the same body?
Food for Systemic thought....In allot of the recent posts on various
subjects.. I'd like to interject that the symptom is and can be the
solution...Our job is to decipher it to either Stop the negative
toway
or love it as it is and make some sense of it....
Be very careful of making "RULES of TREATMENT' or "One Size Fits All
assumptions" as Consciousness knows NO boundaries.. .. A warm Namaste
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] epilepsy
Greetings from Ecuador,
In my experience, epilepsy has to do with murderous rage....with
itproviding a discharge of this intense energy. One often finds epilepsyand
migraines in the same family system. In observing a grand mal seizure
often looks like a very intense tantrum.
Bert has reportedly suggested that children with epilepsy be allowed to
say," I am so angry I could kill ".
In Peru I was told that many cases of epilepsy were diagnosed after the
terrorist attacks on the city of Ayacuocho.
Warm Regards
Anngwyn
www.acst-internatio nal.com
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2a. Re: abortion and Sarah's post
Posted by: "Kay Needham" familyconstellation info@yahoo. com
familyconstellation info
Sun Jul 19, 2009 2:10 pm (PDT)
Hi David,
How refreshing to hear your experiences of these differences. It would seem
that
many differences are rooted in the exclusion of one half of our energys
within;
either the masculine or the feminine. How creative outcomes can be, and how
quickly solutions revealed when both energies work their magic! Do you find
the East
to have a particlularly feminine flavour (even though it is "sticky" at the
moment)
as well, and the West more masculine?
There has been some talk of a headmistress of a school in Australia lately
who
is tackling school disorder on our TV news. She is laying down clear
consequences
for acts of violence that create disorder. It also was refreshing to see
her success
rates increasing with the introduction of respect to order. It seems the
respect of order
sets the boundary to support, as you say, the internal love flow. I thought
this was
another example of how our collective is beginning to recognise these
things. It soon may
be not so much a case of "turning the other cheek" but "giving a good whack
back!".....a little
less hard....of course!
Kind regards and "cool" wishes for your hot sticky days in Guangzhou.
Luv Sadhana
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From: "david@innersuccess. net.au" <david@innersuccess. .net.au>
To: constellationTalk@ yahoogroups. com
Sent: Sunday, July 19, 2009 12:52:17 PM
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Re: abortion and Sarah's post
Dear Sarah,
Some thoughts prompted by your post.
I think on Ctalk we often see people ask about a certain situation,
and what are the causes, and then someone comes back and says 'its
caused by this or that, and in fact I have a model for finding the
solution' and there are some famous structures of likely causes, maybe
the most famous being Bert Hellinger saying Autism is about murder.
So I am going to do something similar, as a man.
I think that men or the male energy tends to gives us structure and
form and protection, and women and the feminine energy tends to give
us love and relationship and the weaving of life together. Men tend
to hold the boundary within which women can relate and love.
I find sometimes as a therapist that my female clients find it hard
to think in terms of 'parts' of themselves as this is more structural,
but men find it quite easy usually.
So when we read in Ctalk about the structure and methods, such as the
recent ones by Dan and Fung I think they are just being natural as
men. But that doesn't mean for me they don't have other aspects and
feminine energy as well, as I have.
So, my way of thinking is that the weaving of feminine and masculine
energy is important, and both come together to provide support for
healthy relationships.
My thinking has been shaped by some recent experiences. I was asked to
heal a group of women, who had mostly experienced difficult situations
with men, and had, in a way, taken some refuge together. But over the
years they had lost the ability to relate with each other, to love
each other, they had lost their hearts and they asked a man to help
them. The first thing I did, in my maleness, was to help them restore
a boundary and safety and they started to see each other again, and
some emergedlove. The next bit is a bit harder, to help them find
ways of providing their own safety, maybe the community will end or
their views of men will change, who knows.
The second experience was spending some time in a spiritual community
of healers, where I received male energy and guidance, witnessed by a
woman. At first I struggled to fully understand this, that a woman had
been so figural in this. And then I became more in touch with life and
love coming from the mother, the feminine energy, and honouring this.
This experience led me to remember the women in my life who had loved
me, and how much I had respected that, even though quite often I had
struggled to say to them, 'I love you'.
So, my thinking now makes more sense of the father often standing in
first place in constellations, holding the boundary and protecting the
love in the family.
Twice I have seen this in Constellations, in Germany and Australia,
where a group of women had come together in the centre to heal, and
the men have taken positions on the outside, on the perimeter, maybe
looking out, to protect the healing and the love.
So in Constellations now I am less inclined to have rows of men or
women, as I think this excludes the natural flowing of male and female
energy, apart from actually excluding half the grandparents and more.
Sarah, you said "the trick imo seems to be havve a hypothesis, either
based on your own experience or on what you've learnt from others and
then be prepared to modify or even toss it according to where the
energy and flow of the constellation is going." So I agree with you,
in my words structure can give us the safety to make a start, to set
some boundary to feel safe enough to start, and then as things flow,
as love flows, the container for work can grow and the truth can show
up.
This thinking has also led me to think of Constellations not so much
as the Orders of Love, but of Order and Love.
Thanks again Sarah
David Mathes, from a sticky Guangzhou.
Posted by: "sarahjibhai" drsarahmoore@ gmail.com sarahjibhai
Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:50 pm (PDT)
dear all
thanks for the conversation. although i butt in from time to time
sometimes what people say here does move me to respond. i particularly
find it difficult to bear when people either new or old to
constellation work say ' mr x says that this means this - so that's
the way we have to interpret it'. in the early days, lots of people
used to go on about bert like this. bert would say something, and he
did have a tendency too in his session like ' this happening in this
constellation means y' and then some people would have a tendency to
then take this as gospel as if when it comes up in a constellation
from thenceforth it always means the same thing. any prolonged
experience in the constellating circle would seem to me to indicate to
anyone involved that different meanings attach at different times to
different actions and reactions in the mandala - and it is dangerous
indeed to interpret them as 'this means that' cos the unfolding of the
constellation itself will often prove the hypothesis wrong. the trick
imo seems to be havve a hypothesis, either based on your own
experience or on what you've learnt from others and then be prepared
to modify or even toss it according to where the energy and flow of
the constellation is going. like in life and the universe in general
for every hard and fast rule there is exception and no-one person has
ever pinned down the categorical laws of the universe. the fluidity of
constellation practice should ram home that lesson to us as we go
about it - the constellation space is a particularly good classroom
for demonstrating it again in my opinion..
happy constellating all and thanks for the discussion
best regards love
sarah
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