mediation and domestic violence thoughts
- From: clzatzman@xxxxxxx
- To: CollabLaw@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Thu, 13 Nov 2003 13:02:24 EST
In a message dated 11/13/2003 12:23:27 PM Eastern Standard Time,
rgh@xxxxxxxxxxx writes:
My own view is
that the negotiation skills acquired through litigation are, as you state,
"an art", and include slight of hand, misdirection, leverage acquisition,
and other skills that are antithetical to true Collaboration.
I absolutely agree with this. This is why I have historically been so vocally
oppositional about practice requirements for participation in collaborative
practice groups.
Another thought: I've also been pretty vocal in support of collaborative
process where domestic violence has been an issue, particularly where it's not
been an ongoing . I'm beginning to rethink this in light of my personal
experiences: my ex-husband and I are divorced as a result of domestic violence
committed against me in front of my children. We mediated the marital
settlement, and
I thought we were working collaboratively toward a relocation to another area
of the United States when, lo and behold, I'm served with a petition for
modification containing some very negative statements about me -- including
accusing me of behaving unethically and suggesting I might commit the crime of
absconding with my minor son to another continent! I am currently dealing with
an
attorney, as opposing counsel, who seems well-trained in the above-mentioned
"arts" of litigation practice.
Blessings,
Cindy Zatzman
Cindy L. Zatzman, President
Practical Ethics, Inc.
9900 Stirling Rd. Ste. 230
Cooper City, FL 33024
Tel. 954.364.6272
Fax 954.364.6271
Website: www.practical-ethics.com
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