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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010 From:
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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010 From: Doris Tennant
1c.
Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010 From: Maclaw
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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010 From: Sherri Harris

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Lesson Learned in Colllaborative Law 2010 From: Tom Nagel

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Fwd: Stu Webb and Sherrie Abney talking about Collaborative Practice From: carl
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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010

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klempners@xxxxxxx    <http://profiles.yahoo.com/sharonklempner> sharonklempner

Sun Jan 2, 2011 5:50 am (PST)

Now that I'm back from my 'happy happy', I want to remember how truly
scared and sad many of our clients are. Often their 'annoying' factor is
related to deep feelings of abandonment and complicated loss.

But now I want to wish you all a 'happy happy' for 2011 and beyond,

Sharon Klempner, MSW, LCSW, BCD
SharonKlempner.com

In a message dated 1/1/2011 7:47:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
cpchicago@gmail. <mailto:cpchicago%40gmail.com> com writes:

I have learned.that standing up requires standing out and sometimes means
standing alone.

I know....not necessarily a new lesson, but one for which I draw much
strength from each of you.

Bless you all this year and faaaar beyond!

InJoy!
cMr

Collaborative Practice Chicago
Divorce Without Warfare
carl Michael rossi, M.A. J.D., L.P.C.
Attorney, Mediator, Coach, Counselor
773-292-3456
_cMr@CPChicago. <mailto:_cMr%40CPChicago.net> net_ (mailto:cMr@CPChicago. ;
<mailto:cMr%40CPChicago.net> net)
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Executive Director, _Collaborative Practice Professionals of Illinois_
(http://cppillinois. ;<http://cppillinois.com/> com/)

On Sat, Jan 1, 2011 at 12:06 PM, <_victoria@victorias
<mailto:_victoria%40victoriasmith.ca> mith.ca_
(mailto:victoria@victoriasm ;<mailto:victoria%40victoriasmith.ca> ith.ca) >
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A lesson for me has been the importance of going right to the heart of the
conflict-often the elephant in the room, that is about uncomfortable
differences in perpectives or needs. I've found trying to smooth over or go
around or try to change either person doesn't work. Better to put it on the
table with as much honesty and as little judgment as possible and look for
realistic ways to resolve

Happy New Year to all!

Victoria

Victoria Smith JD
_www.victoriasmith.ca_ (http://www.victoria ;<http://www.victoriasmith.ca/>
smith.ca/)
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Subject: Re: [CollabLaw] Lessons learned as a collaborative professional
in 2010

I actually think that the steps, protocols or choreography, help keep us
focused and give us a firmer foundation to refer back to when things get
dicey, whether with the clients or between Team members. If we are going to
change the dance steps then it is in response to the needs of the clients, or
the team but it is done mindfully and with care. best to all our
colleagues in the new year.

Rita S. Pollak
Past-President IACP
3 Harvard Ave., suite 3
Brookline, MA. 02446
617-232-2009
FAX: 617-277-1699
_www.collaborativepractice.com_ (http://www.collabor ;
<http://www.collaborativepractice.com/> ativepractice.com/)

In a message dated 12/31/2010 8:28:23 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
_htindall@tindallen <mailto:_htindall%40tindallengland.com> gland.com_
(mailto:htindall@tindalleng ;<mailto:htindall%40tindallengland.com> land.com)
writes:

As we close 2010, what is an important lesson you have learned this year
that can be shared with others? My lesson: Forget all the rules and
protocols, but treat every case as a special assignment, learn what the client
wants, and stay focused on that objective. I am still learning the art of
collaborative advocacy.

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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010

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tennantdoris

Sun Jan 2, 2011 8:31 am (PST)

My lessons are continuing ones: I need to practice skillfully, which
includes following the protocols-those of the MA Collaborative Law Council
were carefully drawn up by seasoned and dedicated practitioners-and
deviating from them only when truly appropriate to a situation, which the
team has fully vetted together. The other part of my continuing lesson is
that I must practice with compassion and sensitivity, and be open to being
held accountable, by either party or any team member, when I make missteps.

Doris Tennant

Tennant Lubell, LLC

288 Walnut Street, Suite 500

Newton, MA 02460

617-969-9610, X 101

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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010

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maclaw@xxxxxxxxxx    <http://profiles.yahoo.com/jacknust> jacknust

Sun Jan 2, 2011 8:54 am (PST)

Sharon:

What a nice observation. When I first read your post, I read "scared" as
"sacred". Thank you, Dr. Freud.

Jac E. Knust
The Collaborative Law Group
Ellicott City MD

On Jan 2, 2011, at 8:49 AM, klempners@aol. <mailto:klempners%40aol.com> com
wrote:

Now that I'm back from my 'happy happy', I want to remember how truly scared
and sad many of our clients are. Often their 'annoying' factor is related to
deep feelings of abandonment and complicated loss.

But now I want to wish you all a 'happy happy' for 2011 and beyond,

Sharon Klempner, MSW, LCSW, BCD
SharonKlempner.com

In a message dated 1/1/2011 7:47:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
cpchicago@gmail. <mailto:cpchicago%40gmail.com> com writes:
I have learned.that standing up requires standing out and sometimes means
standing alone.

I know....not necessarily a new lesson, but one for which I draw much
strength from each of you.

Bless you all this year and faaaar beyond!

InJoy!

cMr

Collaborative Practice Chicago
Divorce Without Warfare
carl Michael rossi, M.A. J.D., L.P.C.
Attorney, Mediator, Coach, Counselor
773-292-3456
cMr@CPChicago. <mailto:cMr%40CPChicago.net> net
www.CPChicago.net
Executive Director, Collaborative Practice Professionals of Illinois

On Sat, Jan 1, 2011 at 12:06 PM, <victoria@victoriasm
<mailto:victoria%40victoriasmith.ca> ith.ca> wrote:

A lesson for me has been the importance of going right to the heart of the
conflict-often the elephant in the room, that is about uncomfortable
differences in perpectives or needs. I've found trying to smooth over or go
around or try to change either person doesn't work. Better to put it on the
table with as much honesty and as little judgment as possible and look for
realistic ways to resolve

Happy New Year to all!

Victoria

Victoria Smith JD
www.victoriasmith.ca

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I actually think that the steps, protocols or choreography, help keep us
focused and give us a firmer foundation to refer back to when things get
dicey, whether with the clients or between Team members. If we are going to
change the dance steps then it is in response to the needs of the clients, or
the team but it is done mindfully and with care. best to all our colleagues
in the new year.

Rita S. Pollak
Past-President IACP
3 Harvard Ave., suite 3
Brookline, MA. 02446
617-232-2009
FAX: 617-277-1699
www.collaborativepractice.com

In a message dated 12/31/2010 8:28:23 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
htindall@tindalleng <mailto:htindall%40tindallengland.com> land.com writes:

As we close 2010, what is an important lesson you have learned this year that
can be shared with others? My lesson: Forget all the rules and protocols, but
treat every case as a special assignment, learn what the client wants, and
stay focused on that objective. I am still learning the art of collaborative
advocacy.

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Re: Lessons learned as a collaborative professional in 2010

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sherri.harris@xxxxxxxxx    <http://profiles.yahoo.com/sghmsw> sghmsw

Sun Jan 2, 2011 11:32 am (PST)

The most important thing I have learned in the past five years as a
collaborative coach is that the clients own the outcome but the team owns
the process.
Some wise collab professional said "When you get on the plane headed for
California, they don't let any of the pasengers decide they want the plane
to fly to Utah."
Successful cases require that the team stay on course despite how difficult
it becomes.

Sherri G. Harris, MSW, LCSW
Collaborative Family Law Association, St. Louis, Mo.

On Sun, Jan 2, 2011 at 10:54 AM, Maclaw <maclaw@jknust.
<mailto:maclaw%40jknust.com> com> wrote:

Sharon:

What a nice observation. When I first read your post, I read "scared" as
"sacred". Thank you, Dr. Freud.

Jac E. Knust
The Collaborative Law Group
Ellicott City MD

On Jan 2, 2011, at 8:49 AM, klempners@aol. <mailto:klempners%40aol.com> com
wrote:

Now that I'm back from my 'happy happy', I want to remember how truly
scared and sad many of our clients are. Often their 'annoying' factor is
related to deep feelings of abandonment and complicated loss.

But now I want to wish you all a 'happy happy' for 2011 and beyond,

Sharon Klempner, MSW, LCSW, BCD
SharonKlempner.com <http://sharonklempn ;<http://sharonklempner.com/> er.com/>

In a message dated 1/1/2011 7:47:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
cpchicago@gmail. <mailto:cpchicago%40gmail.com> com writes:

I have learned.that standing up requires standing out and sometimes means
standing alone.

I know....not necessarily a new lesson, but one for which I draw much
strength from each of you.

Bless you all this year and faaaar beyond!

*InJoy!*
*cMr*

*Collaborative Practice Chicago*
*Divorce Without Warfare*
*carl Michael rossi, M.A. J.D., L.P.C.
Attorney, Mediator, Coach, Counselor*
*773-292-3456*
*cMr@CPChicago. <mailto:%2AcMr%40CPChicago.net> net* <cMr@CPChicago.
<mailto:cMr%40CPChicago.net> net>
*www.CPChicago.net* <http://www.cpchicag ;<http://www.cpchicago.net/> o.net/>
Executive Director, *Collaborative Practice Professionals of
Illinois*<http://cppillinois. ;<http://cppillinois.com/> com/>

On Sat, Jan 1, 2011 at 12:06 PM, <victoria@victoriasm
<mailto:victoria%40victoriasmith.ca> ith.ca> wrote:

A lesson for me has been the importance of going right to the heart of the
conflict-often the elephant in the room, that is about uncomfortable
differences in perpectives or needs. I've found trying to smooth over or go
around or try to change either person doesn't work. Better to put it on the
table with as much honesty and as little judgment as possible and look for
realistic ways to resolve

Happy New Year to all!

Victoria

Victoria Smith JD
www.victoriasmith.ca

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I actually think that the steps, protocols or choreography, help keep us
focused and give us a firmer foundation to refer back to when things get
dicey, whether with the clients or between Team members. If we are going to
change the dance steps then it is in response to the needs of the clients,
or the team but it is done mindfully and with care. best to all our
colleagues in the new year.

Rita S. Pollak
Past-President IACP
3 Harvard Ave., suite 3
Brookline, MA. 02446
617-232-2009
FAX: 617-277-1699
www.collaborativepractice.com

In a message dated 12/31/2010 8:28:23 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
htindall@tindalleng <mailto:htindall%40tindallengland.com> land.com writes:

As we close 2010, what is an important lesson you have learned this year
that can be shared with others? My lesson: Forget all the rules and
protocols, but treat every case as a special assignment, learn what the
client wants, and stay focused on that objective. I am still learning the
art of collaborative advocacy.

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Lesson Learned in Colllaborative Law 2010

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Sun Jan 2, 2011 7:30 am (PST)

Here is a lesson I hope I have learned -- I realized too late in a
collaborative case this year that my client needed a coach. I missed the signs
during the week or two time slot during which the symptoms were evident and the
case blew up.

I had made the wrong assumptioms about which spouse would be hardest to work
with in the collaborative context---i.e. which spouse would need non-lawyer
coaching support. (In our group the fully staffed case is still not the norm.)

Having stubbed my toe twice in this regard during the first decade of the
century, I hope I have learned my lesson.

On the bright side, I have gone another collaborative year in which each and
every collaborative case client has paid my fees in full, including the lady I
failed to get coached in time.

Happy New Collaborative Year

Tom H. Nagel
Judicatum Procurator Recuperatio
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*Our first guests will be Stu Webb and Sherrie Abney!*
*The interview will be live at 1:30 pm on Wednesday, Jan 5. It will be
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Stu and Sherrie will be talking about where CP has come and where it is
going. Its beginnings in divorce and its growth to 'otd' [other than
divorce] applications. Stu is the creator of Collaborative Practice (aka
Collaborative Law). Sherrie has been training professionals throughout the
world in applying CP to other 'civil' matters for over 5 years. She'll be
training here in Illinois on Feb 11-12. *Details below*.

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The *Collaborative Practice Professionals of Illinois* is sponsoring a *Two-Day
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*That's right, Collaborative Practice can be applied beyond divorce* to
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*Membership is a quick, fully online process*.
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