, 2010 3:22 PMSubject: ACCESSIBLE WORLD CLASSROOM OF THE AIR PRESENTS dDR. TERRI HEDGPETH, NOV. 16, 2010
News Wire: Dr.Terri Hedgpeth, Director, Disability Resource Center, Arizona State university will give us a presentation on socializing at a party. She outlines her presentation below for us to consider. Working A Room: Why is it important and what are some helpful tips? Learning to "work a room" be it at a friends party or a large function at your work place, is an important skill to have or learn even more so todaythen in the past for people who are blind or visually impaired. I say this because more and more people who are blind are turning to social networking sites for their social interactions and as a place to meet others. Once onefinds a site that they are able to utilize with a degree of comfort, it iseasy to slip into the comfort zone of visiting with friends where you don't need to worry about what you are wearing, how you look, dealing with all thedisability related questions and the whole curiosity factor. First step begins long before the day of the event arrives.You need a "mirror." you know, one of the human variety. One you can trust. Later, you may find someone else, or several someone elses to serve in thiscapacity. But find one to help for now. You need a human mirror that will be honest with you, and tell you things they might not consider telling you or other friends otherwise. Offer themlunch on you, or perhaps a Starbucks card in exchange for giving you a handin the following tasks.Seriously consider having them come over and go through your clothes in yourcloset, to identify garments that are soiled, dingy, worn looking or torn. Then have them assist you with matching tops and bottoms together for complete outfits. Don't forget your shoes in the sorting.If you can afford to do so, get this person or another friend you can trust on taste in clothing, to go shopping with you. Don't forget some second-handstores can yield some real bargains in nice quality clothing. A more affordable option for many of us. If you are carrying around a few extra pounds, don't make the mistake of wearing and or buying clothes that are a little tight on you. Such clothesmake you look bigger, and no matter how nice the clothes are, if they do notfit right, they will not be attractive on anyone. That is why it isimportant to have someone you know who will be honest with you and tell youthings you may not enjoy hearing. You will have to reassure the individual that you will not feel bad and that you need them to be honest and directwith you about how something looks. As people who are blind, it is so easyfor us to default to the comfortable old t-shirts and deans or God forbid, sweat pants.Now, I have to share with you what many people say to me at this point. "if someone doesn't like me the way I am, then they can go find someone else tobe friends with." Or something like that. To that I ask how do you feel about someone who has really bad breath or B-O? Or someone who makes nonverbal noises all the time such as snorting flehm up into their mouth; sniffling all the time; making loud smackingnoises while eating; maybe slapping their hand on their leg while they talkto imphasize points in their speech; or so on. Can you honestly say you do not judge these individuals who make a cacophony of noises?If you are like most people, you do, and that is how people who are sightedfeel about people who don't dress appropriately or have other annoying habbits. So, make sure you know what the proper attire is supposed to be for the event you'll be attending and have your outfit ready to go ahead of time.Don't forget your hair, whether you are a guy or gal, make sure your hair isclean and combed or brushed into an attractive style.If you are a gal, and want to wear lipstick or makeup, have someone check it for you before hand. You don't want to look like a raccoon, or have lipstickon your teeth.I only wear lipstick and I always wipe my teeth with a tissue before I leavethe house or after reapplying lipstick. Next, find out what you can about the room where the event will be held. This is not critical, but you will probably feel a little more at ease if you have an idea how many people are expected, room size, furniture arrangement, and if you are arriving to the place by yourself, how to get from arrival point to the door of the room.Furniture: is there tables and chairs? Just chairs? Sofas and chairs? Standat tables? Now comes your big entrance into the room. VERY VERY important! Do not allow someone to shuddle you to a chair to sit and . well, wait for people to come to you. Working a room is done on the move. You will likely encounter a few kind soles that want to help you find a seat, even though no one else is really sitting. Just say, with a smile on your face, no thank you, I am going torome around and see who is here. Then just do that. Walk around slowly in a "meandering" style, and stop at clusters of people here and there and listen to see what they are talking about. If that particular topic does not sound interesting to you, just casually move on. If someone from a group says "doyou need any help?" Just say no thank you, just hanging out. Gage the conversation to see if it is more public and not a private one before you join in. You will most likely find some conversations that are closed and not intended for others to join in. Just move along to the next cluster of people. Remember, facial expression is important. If you walk up to a cluster thatare talking about weather, politics, an accident someone saw on their way to the gathering, you probably don't want a big smile on your face. A big smile in such situations interrupts the flow of conversation and communicates thatyou are wanting something and looking for an opportunity to cut in and ask something like "where is the hostes?" practice a neutral but friendlyexpression. Find one that is somewhat natural and comfortable to you though.Presenter: Dr. Terri hedgpeth E-Mail: terrih@xxxxxxx Hosts: Ruth Ann Acosta, Sherry wells Date: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 Time: 6:00 PM PST, 7:00 PM MST, 8:00 PM CST, 9:00 PM EST, and elsewhere in the world Monday 2:00 GMT. Approximately 15 minutes prior to the event start time; go to TheAccessible World Classroom at: http://conference321.com/masteradmin/room.asp?id=rs0f1c528bd81b Or, alternatively, Select The Classroom at: www.accessibleworld.org Enter your first and last names on the sign-in screen.If you are a first-time user of the Talking Communities online conferencing software, there is a small, safe software program that you need to downloadand then run. A link to the software is available on every entry screen to the Accessible World rooms. All online interactive programs are free of charge, and open to anyone worldwide having an Internet connection, a computer, speakers, and a sound card. Those with microphones can interact audibly with the presenters and others in the virtual audience. To speak to us, hold down the control keyand let up to listen. If no microphone is available, you may text chat withthe attendees. Accessible World uses News Wires, like this one, to inform people of the topic and times for the many Discussion Groups on Accessible World. The lists are announce only to keep the traffic to a minimum. You can join the Accessible World Announce List, the Tek Talk Announce List or the Sports Talk Announce List by completing the form at: www.accessibleworld.org/mailinglists Accessible World Contacts: Robert Acosta, Chair Accessible World 818-998-0044 Email: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx Web: www.helpinghands4theblind.org Marcia Moses, Events Coordinator Accessible World 734-495-1496 Email: mgmoses@xxxxxxxxxxx net Steve Hoffman, President Talking Communities Email: steve@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxThe Accessible World, a division of Helping Hands For The Blind, a 501(c)(3)not-for-profit organization, seeks to educate the general public, thedisabled community and the professionals who serve them by providing highlyrelevant information about new products, services, and training opportunities designed specifically to eliminate geographic and access barriers that adversely affect them From: Bob Acosta [mailto:boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx] Sent: Sunday, November 07, 2010 1:16 PM To: Terri Hedgpeth Subject: Re: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on Tuesday? Hi Terri, please send me a news release ASAP or we just can't move forward at this time. I can meet you at 9 am California time on Tuesday, but without a press release, I can't do much. Let's see what Sherry thinks here. Bob----- Original Message -----From: Terri Hedgpeth To: Sherry Wells ; Bob Acosta Sent: Sunday, November 07, 2010 11:40 AM Subject: RE: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on Tuesday? Hello Sherry and Bob, I would be happy to meet with both of you Tuesday. Would it be convenientfor you if we change the time to Tuesday morning at 10:00 Mountain standardtime? I believe with the time change today that would be 9:00am for Bob. I don't know what state-city you are in Cherry. I am in Arizona and we don't change our clocks, so now we are on Mountain time. Looking forward to visiting with you both. From: Sherry Wells [mailto:sdwells@xxxxxxxxxx] Sent: Saturday, November 06, 2010 7:03 PM To: Terri Hedgpeth; Bob AcostaSubject: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on Tuesday?Hi Terri, I work with Bob & Ruth Ann Acosta on arranging / hosting Classroom of theAir on Accessible World. I understand you will be giving a presentation on Working the Room on 11/16. Would you be free for a short call next Tuesday 11/9 at 2:00 PM Central Time to discuss your presentation? If not, is thereany other time on Tuesday you could meet? Please let me know what works best for you. To meet, we will use a conference number. Just dial the number below then punch in the passcode when prompted. Looking forward to talking with you and especially to hearing your presentation! Thanks! Conference #: 218-844-3388 Passcode: 090807 Regards, Sherry Wells "Bob Acosta" <boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx> 10/31/2010 12:32 PM To "Terri Hedgpeth" <terrih@xxxxxxx> cc Subject Re: responding to your voice mail hello Terri,i shall call tomorrow at work. I will need a press release soon as we needthe time to prepare a news wire. Bob----- Original Message ----- From: Terri HedgpethTo: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx Sent: Sunday, October 31, 2010 9:37 AM Subject: responding to your voice mail Hello Robert, I was crazy busy Thursday and Friday with our VRATE conference. I am the co-chair of the conference and so there are always little things to attend to at the last minute. www.vrate.org Anyway, please feel free to give me a call today on my cell or tomorrow on my work phone 480-727-8133 I absolutely agree it is not to early to talk about the presentation. Talk soon. Terri Robert Acosta, President Helping Hands for the Blind Email: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx Web Site: www.helpinghands4theblind.org You can assist Helping Hands for the Blind by donating your used computers to us. If you have a blind friend in need of a computer, please mail us at the above address.
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