Darla, what a thoughtful and useful set of skills! I hope whatever group there is for those seeking employment gets to hear about this; these are great skills for helping you to learn about presenting yourself. great find Darla! Chip -----Original Message----- From: tabi-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:tabi-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Darla J. Rogers Sent: Thursday, November 11, 2010 6:12 PM To: tabi@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [tabi] Fw: ACCESSIBLE WORLD CLASSROOM OF THE AIR PRESENTS dDR. TERRI HEDGPETH, NOV. 16, 2010 , 2010 3:22 PM Subject: ACCESSIBLE WORLD CLASSROOM OF THE AIR PRESENTS dDR. TERRI HEDGPETH, NOV. 16, 2010 > News Wire: > > Dr.Terri Hedgpeth, Director, Disability Resource Center, Arizona State > university will give us a presentation on socializing at a party. She > outlines her presentation below for us to consider. > > > > Working A Room: Why is it important and what are some helpful tips? > > > > Learning to "work a room" be it at a friends party or a large function at > your work place, is an important skill to have or learn even more so today > then in the past for people who are blind or visually impaired. I say > this > because more and more people who are blind are turning to social > networking > sites for their social interactions and as a place to meet others. Once > one > finds a site that they are able to utilize with a degree of comfort, it is > easy to slip into the comfort zone of visiting with friends where you > don't > need to worry about what you are wearing, how you look, dealing with all > the > disability related questions and the whole curiosity factor. > > > > First step begins long before the day of the event arrives. > > You need a "mirror." you know, one of the human variety. One you can > trust. > Later, you may find someone else, or several someone elses to serve in > this > capacity. But find one to help for now. > > You need a human mirror that will be honest with you, and tell you things > they might not consider telling you or other friends otherwise. Offer them > lunch on you, or perhaps a Starbucks card in exchange for giving you a > hand > in the following tasks. > > > > Seriously consider having them come over and go through your clothes in > your > closet, to identify garments that are soiled, dingy, worn looking or torn. > Then have them assist you with matching tops and bottoms together for > complete outfits. Don't forget your shoes in the sorting. > > > > If you can afford to do so, get this person or another friend you can > trust > on taste in clothing, to go shopping with you. Don't forget some > second-hand > stores can yield some real bargains in nice quality clothing. A more > affordable option for many of us. > > > > If you are carrying around a few extra pounds, don't make the mistake of > wearing and or buying clothes that are a little tight on you. Such clothes > make you look bigger, and no matter how nice the clothes are, if they do > not > fit right, they will not be attractive on anyone. That is why it is > important to have someone you know who will be honest with you and tell > you > things you may not enjoy hearing. You will have to reassure the individual > that you will not feel bad and that you need them to be honest and direct > with you about how something looks. As people who are blind, it is so > easy > for us to default to the comfortable old t-shirts and deans or God forbid, > sweat pants. > > > > Now, I have to share with you what many people say to me at this point. > "if > someone doesn't like me the way I am, then they can go find someone else > to > be friends with." Or something like that. > > > > To that I ask how do you feel about someone who has really bad breath or > B-O? Or someone who makes nonverbal noises all the time such as snorting > flehm up into their mouth; sniffling all the time; making loud smacking > noises while eating; maybe slapping their hand on their leg while they > talk > to imphasize points in their speech; or so on. Can you honestly say you do > not judge these individuals who make a cacophony of noises? > > > > If you are like most people, you do, and that is how people who are > sighted > feel about people who don't dress appropriately or have other annoying > habbits. > > > > So, make sure you know what the proper attire is supposed to be for the > event you'll be attending and have your outfit ready to go ahead of time. > > > > Don't forget your hair, whether you are a guy or gal, make sure your hair > is > clean and combed or brushed into an attractive style. > > > > If you are a gal, and want to wear lipstick or makeup, have someone check > it > for you before hand. You don't want to look like a raccoon, or have > lipstick > on your teeth. > > > > I only wear lipstick and I always wipe my teeth with a tissue before I > leave > the house or after reapplying lipstick. > > > > Next, find out what you can about the room where the event will be held. > This is not critical, but you will probably feel a little more at ease if > you have an idea how many people are expected, room size, furniture > arrangement, and if you are arriving to the place by yourself, how to get > from arrival point to the door of the room. > > > > Furniture: is there tables and chairs? Just chairs? Sofas and chairs? > Stand > at tables? > > > > Now comes your big entrance into the room. > > VERY VERY important! Do not allow someone to shuddle you to a chair to sit > and . well, wait for people to come to you. > > Working a room is done on the move. You will likely encounter a few kind > soles that want to help you find a seat, even though no one else is really > sitting. Just say, with a smile on your face, no thank you, I am going to > rome around and see who is here. Then just do that. Walk around slowly in > a > "meandering" style, and stop at clusters of people here and there and > listen > to see what they are talking about. If that particular topic does not > sound > interesting to you, just casually move on. If someone from a group says > "do > you need any help?" Just say no thank you, just hanging out. Gage the > conversation to see if it is more public and not a private one before you > join in. You will most likely find some conversations that are closed and > not intended for others to join in. Just move along to the next cluster of > people. > > > > Remember, facial expression is important. If you walk up to a cluster that > are talking about weather, politics, an accident someone saw on their way > to > the gathering, you probably don't want a big smile on your face. A big > smile > in such situations interrupts the flow of conversation and communicates > that > you are wanting something and looking for an opportunity to cut in and ask > something like "where is the hostes?" practice a neutral but friendly > expression. Find one that is somewhat natural and comfortable to you > though. > > > > Presenter: Dr. Terri hedgpeth > > E-Mail: terrih@xxxxxxx > > > > Hosts: Ruth Ann Acosta, Sherry wells > > > > Date: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 > > > > Time: 6:00 PM PST, 7:00 PM MST, 8:00 PM CST, 9:00 PM EST, > > and elsewhere in the world Monday 2:00 GMT. > > > > Approximately 15 minutes prior to the event start time; go to > > TheAccessible World Classroom at: > > http://conference321.com/masteradmin/room.asp?id=rs0f1c528bd81b > > Or, alternatively, > > > > Select The Classroom at: www.accessibleworld.org > > Enter your first and last names on the sign-in screen. > > > > If you are a first-time user of the Talking Communities online > conferencing > software, there is a small, safe software program that you need to > download > and then run. A link to the software is available on every entry screen to > the Accessible World rooms. > > > > All online interactive programs are free of charge, and open to anyone > worldwide having an Internet connection, a computer, speakers, and a sound > card. Those with microphones can interact audibly with the presenters and > others in the virtual audience. To speak to us, hold down the control key > and let up to listen. If no microphone is available, you may text chat > with > the attendees. > > > > Accessible World uses News Wires, like this one, to inform people of the > topic and times for the many Discussion Groups on Accessible World. The > lists are announce only to keep the traffic to a minimum. You can join the > Accessible World Announce List, the Tek Talk Announce List or the Sports > Talk Announce List by completing the form at: > www.accessibleworld.org/mailinglists > > > > Accessible World Contacts: > > > > Robert Acosta, Chair > > Accessible World > > 818-998-0044 > > Email: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx > > Web: www.helpinghands4theblind.org > > > > Marcia Moses, Events Coordinator > > Accessible World > > 734-495-1496 > > Email: mgmoses@xxxxxxxxxxx > > net > > > > Steve Hoffman, President > > Talking Communities > > Email: steve@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx > > > > The Accessible World, a division of Helping Hands For The Blind, a > 501(c)(3) > not-for-profit organization, seeks to educate the general public, the > disabled community and the professionals who serve them by providing > highly > relevant information about new products, services, and training > opportunities designed specifically to eliminate geographic and access > barriers that adversely affect them > > > > > > > > > > > > From: Bob Acosta [mailto:boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx] > Sent: Sunday, November 07, 2010 1:16 PM > To: Terri Hedgpeth > Subject: Re: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on > Tuesday? > > > > Hi Terri, > > please send me a news release ASAP or we just can't move forward at this > time. I can meet you at 9 am California time on Tuesday, but without a > press release, I can't do much. Let's see what Sherry thinks here. > > Bob > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: Terri Hedgpeth > > To: Sherry Wells ; Bob Acosta > > Sent: Sunday, November 07, 2010 11:40 AM > > Subject: RE: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on > Tuesday? > > > > Hello Sherry and Bob, > > I would be happy to meet with both of you Tuesday. Would it be convenient > for you if we change the time to Tuesday morning at 10:00 Mountain > standard > time? I believe with the time change today that would be 9:00am for Bob. I > don't know what state-city you are in Cherry. I am in Arizona and we don't > change our clocks, so now we are on Mountain time. > > Looking forward to visiting with you both. > > > > From: Sherry Wells [mailto:sdwells@xxxxxxxxxx] > Sent: Saturday, November 06, 2010 7:03 PM > To: Terri Hedgpeth; Bob Acosta > Subject: Accessible World Presentation - Can You Meet to Discuss on > Tuesday? > > > > > Hi Terri, > > I work with Bob & Ruth Ann Acosta on arranging / hosting Classroom of the > Air on Accessible World. I understand you will be giving a presentation > on > Working the Room on 11/16. Would you be free for a short call next > Tuesday > 11/9 at 2:00 PM Central Time to discuss your presentation? If not, is > there > any other time on Tuesday you could meet? Please let me know what works > best for you. > > To meet, we will use a conference number. Just dial the number below then > punch in the passcode when prompted. Looking forward to talking with you > and especially to hearing your presentation! > Thanks! > > Conference #: 218-844-3388 > Passcode: 090807 > > Regards, > Sherry Wells > > "Bob Acosta" <boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx> > > 10/31/2010 12:32 PM > To > "Terri Hedgpeth" <terrih@xxxxxxx> > > cc > > > Subject > Re: responding to your voice mail > > > > > > > > > > > > > > hello Terri, > i shall call tomorrow at work. I will need a press release soon as we > need > the time to prepare a news wire. Bob > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Terri Hedgpeth > To: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx > Sent: Sunday, October 31, 2010 9:37 AM > Subject: responding to your voice mail > > Hello Robert, > I was crazy busy Thursday and Friday with our VRATE conference. I am the > co-chair of the conference and so there are always little things to attend > to at the last minute. > www.vrate.org > Anyway, please feel free to give me a call today on my cell or tomorrow on > my work phone 480-727-8133 > I absolutely agree it is not to early to talk about the presentation. > Talk soon. > Terri > > > > > > Robert Acosta, President > Helping Hands for the Blind > Email: boacosta@xxxxxxxxxxx > Web Site: www.helpinghands4theblind.org > > You can assist Helping Hands for the Blind by donating your used computers > to us. If you have a blind friend in need of a computer, please mail us at > the above address. > Check out the TABI resource web page at http://acorange.home.comcast.net/TABI and please make suggestions for new material. if you'd like to unsubscribe you can do so through the freelists.org web interface, or by sending an email to the address tabi-request@xxxxxxxxxxxxx with the word "unsubscribe" in the subject. 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