Garrison Keilor says that if you're the third or fourth born, you're likely to be a creature of habit. Of what I know of marriage, I'd have to agree, though I'd like to believe I was called forth out of pure love. None of us, even old us, feels comfortable contemplating our parents' sexual lives. Especially that of our mothers. I say all that with nothing to support it but my own prejudice, but that's all I ever have to work with. Whether the act of coitus that resulted in me was a coition of romantic vision or of diversion doesn't matter: Mama gave gamete me womb to grow and nurtured me for thirty-four years. Her beliefs were wonderfully at odds with a culture that values convention. A resentful feminist long before Betty Friedan. A lover of argumentation, dinners (at her instigation)were debating sessions. She gave all six of us womb and later loving, liberal room to become ourselves. I remember (though I could not have been more than four) her telling me after some dramatic event in my childhood that there was nothing I ever do that would make her stop loving me. "All right," I thought, "I'm set." Thanks, Mom. Mike Geary Motherless in Memphis