Thanks for praying. The meeting went well. There were two elders there. One
definitely "got it." The other was trying hard but was also struggling with
his responsibility to prepare people to the best of his ability. I do think
that they understood why I felt like I needed to say something.
I was super scared, but could tell that they were trying so hard to be
Biblical and pastoral which helped a lot.
On Tue, Aug 13, 2019 at 4:29 PM Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Thanks all. Honestly wish you were here with me.
On Tue, Aug 13, 2019, 3:46 PM Sabrina Thompson <
sabrinamariewrites@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Praying too!
Author Mary DeMuth released a book today specifically about sexual abuse
and how the church can respond. It’s called We Too.
Also Darkness to Light is an organization that offers training that
churches can use.
Those are just a couple of resources I’m aware of.
Hope that helps!
On Aug 13, 2019, at 4:10 PM, K. Jeanne Colas <kristi.colas@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Praying that this meeting increase your love and compassion for each
other, and that all would be quick to hear and slow to speak. May the Lord
give you special grace, Carrie!
Kristi Jeanne Colas
11 rue Henri Dunant
95410 Groslay, France
Le mar. 13 août 2019 à 22:02, Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> a
écrit :
Would appreciate prayer tonight. Brian and I are meeting with two of the
elders. I wrote a letter to all of them last week, so it's probably in
response to that. I am not as nervous today as I have been the last week
which I am thankful for. Just want what is right to be done.
On Wed, Aug 7, 2019 at 9:36 PM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
will continue to pray for you, Carrie, and the church!
On Wed, Aug 7, 2019 at 1:35 PM Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Here is the confusing thing. It can't be just our elders. It's the
system.
I did talk to a older lady in our church today who expressed her
thankfulness for the training. She hasn't been personally exposed to any
of
this, and she thought it was good information. It made me glad that it was
helpful to her, and she understood why I was concerned that it could be
harmful to others. She was concerned that too many Christians would rather
stay uneducated and therefore unsafe which I can understand.
Several elders want to meet. Please pray that something good will come
of all this. It's been horrible having my church history which was full of
abusers unearthed.
On Tue, Aug 6, 2019, 6:25 PM Elizabeth Lovelace <
dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
So glad you said something. So sad that the elders were oblivious.
On Tuesday, August 6, 2019, 8:56:19 AM CDT, Renee O'Leske <
larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Carrie, I am soooo thankful for your tender & obedient / courageous
heart! Blessings, grace & peace from God our Father on you and your
church
family!
On Tue, Aug 6, 2019, 8:24 AM Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Thanks for all of your prayers. I sent a letter (which Brian
previewed/helped with wording) to the elders last night explaining more
fully why I felt I must speak. I scooted out quickly after the meeting on
Sunday, but Brian said a couple people stopped him, told him they were
"statistics," and thanked us for saying something, so maybe this whole
things was for them to know that they are not alone or uncared for. Don't
know for sure, just trying to obey even when it's scary. Praying that the
elders stop and think of those among us who have been hurt and that the
elder who has a hurt one as a wife will be tender with her. Please pray
that he will love her well. This whole thing has shaken her.
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On Tue, Aug 6, 2019 at 5:32 AM K. Jeanne Colas <
kristi.colas@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Proud of you, Carrie, for having the courage to say something
publicly and for desiring to do so in a gracious and Spirit-filled way.
Praying for good communication, love, patience and compassion.
Kristi Jeanne Colas
11 rue Henri Dunant
95410 Groslay, France
Le mar. 6 août 2019 à 03:58, Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx>
a écrit :
Carrie,
Thanks for sharing! I will be praying for you and for the right
words... so there is a mutual understanding...
Hugs!!
-Renee
On Mon, Aug 5, 2019 at 8:48 PM James Brabson <
thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Praying for wisdom and the right words to express your concern.
On August 5, 2019, at 9:45 AM, Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Would appreciate some prayer. A couple of weeks ago an e-mail from
the church was sent out to update our ministry safety training to work
with
kids. The video that was required was disturbing. I know that I am
sheltered, but it wasn't good. I personally believe that it wasn't good
for
the general public, but it was horrible for anyone who has ever dealt
with
sexual abuse. It spent a lot of time on profiling the abuser and very
little on how to actually prevent the abuser from having time/access to
the kids. Several people had reached out to different elders, but several
had not seen the video and those who had didn't think much of it. I guess
compared to other video it was pretty light. I don't care how it
compares;
it was bad. So yesterday at the yearly business meeting when it was
brought
up and no elder addressed or warned about the content or offered another
solution, with Brian's support (he watched the video and agreed) I stood
up
and said something. I was concerned that people would be blindsided and
hurt unduly. I, personally, have a lot of anger/hurt/confusion in regards
to the elders and honestly to the whole system that seeks to prevent
sexual
abuse, but makes no place of safety for the adults who have already been
abused. Do you we all need training? Yes. Do we all need to be exposed to
explicit content? No. You can't tell me that this can't be done with more
care and grace.
Would love your prayer as I, myself, process this whole event, and
prayer that if/when I meet with the elders I would be able to explain
myself well and that maybe they would understand.
Thanks for being a safe place.
Carrie
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