Praying too!
Author Mary DeMuth released a book today specifically about sexual abuse and
how the church can respond. It’s called We Too.
Also Darkness to Light is an organization that offers training that churches
can use.
Those are just a couple of resources I’m aware of.
Hope that helps!
On Aug 13, 2019, at 4:10 PM, K. Jeanne Colas <kristi.colas@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Praying that this meeting increase your love and compassion for each other,
and that all would be quick to hear and slow to speak. May the Lord give you
special grace, Carrie!
Kristi Jeanne Colas
11 rue Henri Dunant
95410 Groslay, France
Le mar. 13 août 2019 à 22:02, Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> a écrit
:
Would appreciate prayer tonight. Brian and I are meeting with two of the
elders. I wrote a letter to all of them last week, so it's probably in
response to that. I am not as nervous today as I have been the last week
which I am thankful for. Just want what is right to be done.
On Wed, Aug 7, 2019 at 9:36 PM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
will continue to pray for you, Carrie, and the church!
On Wed, Aug 7, 2019 at 1:35 PM Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Here is the confusing thing. It can't be just our elders. It's the system.
I did talk to a older lady in our church today who expressed her
thankfulness for the training. She hasn't been personally exposed to any
of this, and she thought it was good information. It made me glad that it
was helpful to her, and she understood why I was concerned that it could
be harmful to others. She was concerned that too many Christians would
rather stay uneducated and therefore unsafe which I can understand.
Several elders want to meet. Please pray that something good will come of
all this. It's been horrible having my church history which was full of
abusers unearthed.
On Tue, Aug 6, 2019, 6:25 PM Elizabeth Lovelace
<dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
So glad you said something. So sad that the elders were oblivious.
On Tuesday, August 6, 2019, 8:56:19 AM CDT, Renee O'Leske
<larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Carrie, I am soooo thankful for your tender & obedient / courageous
heart! Blessings, grace & peace from God our Father on you and your
church family!
On Tue, Aug 6, 2019, 8:24 AM Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Thanks for all of your prayers. I sent a letter (which Brian
previewed/helped with wording) to the elders last night explaining more
fully why I felt I must speak. I scooted out quickly after the meeting on
Sunday, but Brian said a couple people stopped him, told him they were
"statistics," and thanked us for saying something, so maybe this whole
things was for them to know that they are not alone or uncared for. Don't
know for sure, just trying to obey even when it's scary. Praying that the
elders stop and think of those among us who have been hurt and that the
elder who has a hurt one as a wife will be tender with her. Please pray
that he will love her well. This whole thing has shaken her.
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On Tue, Aug 6, 2019 at 5:32 AM K. Jeanne Colas <kristi.colas@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Proud of you, Carrie, for having the courage to say something publicly
and for desiring to do so in a gracious and Spirit-filled way. Praying
for good communication, love, patience and compassion.
Kristi Jeanne Colas
11 rue Henri Dunant
95410 Groslay, France
Le mar. 6 août 2019 à 03:58, Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> a
écrit :
Carrie,
Thanks for sharing! I will be praying for you and for the right words...
so there is a mutual understanding...
Hugs!!
-Renee
On Mon, Aug 5, 2019 at 8:48 PM James Brabson <thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Praying for wisdom and the right words to express your concern.
On August 5, 2019, at 9:45 AM, Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Would appreciate some prayer. A couple of weeks ago an e-mail from the
church was sent out to update our ministry safety training to work with
kids. The video that was required was disturbing. I know that I am
sheltered, but it wasn't good. I personally believe that it wasn't good
for the general public, but it was horrible for anyone who has ever dealt
with sexual abuse. It spent a lot of time on profiling the abuser and
very little on how to actually prevent the abuser from having time/access
to the kids. Several people had reached out to different elders, but
several had not seen the video and those who had didn't think much of it.
I guess compared to other video it was pretty light. I don't care how it
compares; it was bad. So yesterday at the yearly business meeting when it
was brought up and no elder addressed or warned about the content or
offered another solution, with Brian's support (he watched the video and
agreed) I stood up and said something. I was concerned that people would
be blindsided and hurt unduly. I, personally, have a lot of
anger/hurt/confusion in regards to the elders and honestly to the whole
system that seeks to prevent sexual abuse, but makes no place of safety
for the adults who have already been abused. Do you we all need training?
Yes. Do we all need to be exposed to explicit content? No. You can't tell
me that this can't be done with more care and grace.
Would love your prayer as I, myself, process this whole event, and prayer
that if/when I meet with the elders I would be able to explain myself
well and that maybe they would understand.
Thanks for being a safe place.
Carrie
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