Sorry about the delay in chiming in....I know that my sister shares a lot
more than I do, in general. I don't share a whole lot of details or even
struggles with anyone. When I talked with my mom about the Middle East, I
had already been thinking and praying about it. I told her about the
interview so that she could pray but I knew that she would worry more than
pray. I didn't want to take a blessing from her but nor did I want to be
the source of a burden. I also have been hurt by my mom in the past by her
sharing, what I thought was private, sensitive info, with other people. I
see the side of having people pray with you and for you but I also see the
need for a prayer closet.
I think some of this also comes down to our seeing the outward while God
sees the heart.
I don't know if I am making sense.....
BBayless
On Sat, Jun 22, 2019 at 4:20 AM James Brabson <thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Side note - I don't know if any of you are friends with Amy, but please
don't say anything. What I am struggling with is why wouldn't you want your
family to pray for you. It has nothing to do with advice. Maybe you single
ladies can help me work through this. I totally agree with you Liz that she
has to make her mistakes. I told Carrie the same thing, but it is hard when
she is so trusting of people and hate to say it clueless when it comes to
life and almost puts her life in danger. My prayer is that there will be
someone at this church that will come along side her to be the friend that
would keep her from doing something dangerous (If that makes sense).
On June 21, 2019, at 8:53 PM, Elizabeth Lovelace <
dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
At some point she needs to be allowed to live her life and make her
mistakes. She is 40, after all. Nobody is responsible for her but herself.
If she doesn't want to run things past your parents, that's her
prerogative. I'm sorry she's hurting people, and that could be communicated
without the additional "you should tell us what you're doing."
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On Fri, Jun 21, 2019 at 7:41 PM, James Brabson
<thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I am referring to my sister Amy. She is not living at home. She was
contacted by a Pastor (graduated with Amy) about moving to MN to teach.
Side note - Amy is not known for making wise decisions. She makes decisions
on what feels good\makes her happy. So it must be God's will. James and I
found out 2 weeks before my parents that she was contacted by Sam. Amy
wanted to see if we knew anything about the church. We didn't know she had
waited to tell them till she made the decision. I commented to her, Mom and
Dad love you and are wise godly people.I would want them praying for me as
I made the decision. She got upset at me and it went right over her head. I
understand she is 40 and needs to make decisions on her own, but to not
want your parent's praying for you or even saying hey I was contacted and
am thinking about it. I don't understand it, it thought maybe that is me.
James and I still call our parents about somethings. I am trying to work
though should I be upset or is it because of what is typed below.
I found out later, Carrie, after I talked to Amy had confronted Amy about
her disrespect for Mom and Dad. It has been going on for a long time. It
has gotten to the point people are asking Carrie whats going on between Dad
and Amy. Carrie said Amy was clueless and still doesn't believe she treats
them with disrespect. I will be honest it makes me mad to personally see
how she treats mom and dad when they have gone over and beyond for her. I
am personally afraid that she will lose touch with us when she moves to MN
and we won't know what is going on in her life. When Amy lived in MI 2
years ago, an hour and a half from us. she had a wonderful pastor and
pastors wife that kept us informed and kept Amy out of trouble.
On June 21, 2019, at 4:24 PM, Pamela Smith <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
I'm a verbal processor, so I need to talk things out with someone. When I
was single, it was usually w/ my mom. My poor husband has to listen to it
now. For the most part, I would talk through it, and then come to a
decision.
Like Liz said, I think it depends on the person, where they live (on their
own or with their parents), and the depth of the decisions. Not all parents
give great advice, so sometimes it's better to inform than to seek their
counsel.
Pam
On Friday, June 21, 2019, 1:55:59 PM CDT, James Brabson <
thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Have a question for you single ladies, but would like input from anyone.
How much council did you get from family . when making life changes or even
informing family ?1. Did you get council from family. 2. talk it through
with your family(not really for council,but to inform. 3. Wait until you've
made your decision. I would primarily be talking about parents.
